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    Default How do you deal with crying?

    Ill be a first time mum in July and am still in the freaking out stage. When I was in the kitchen earlier I heard my neighbours child screaming, and when I hang out with a good friend of mine and her two kids, it freaks me out more. How do you deal with the screaming and the crying and the tantrums? What are the best tips to stop incoming tantrums? (I know the tired ones I just need to look out for tired signs, but what about all the others?)

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    Yeah, here's the thing - others people kids are annoying. But your kids are a different thing altogether.

    You will probably find with your own kids, you have the patience and tolerance of ... a buddah maybe? Lol.

    Another thing is tantrums can happen in a snap and they might not be over anything. My kids have thrown tantrums over which side their pillow was facing up or down, how I didn't put something the right way on the table. And when they are even smaller, there's no way. I can avoid tired tantrums, but not always. The best thing is to rock, sing, laugh. With older kids/babies sometimes the best thing to do is ignore 'when you're ready'.

    And there is nothing wrong with placing a baby who is screaming, and has been for a while, down in their cot or in the play pen, their bouncer for five minutes while you go, calm down, and catch your breath.

    You will do so much better than you think.

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    You can't stop tantrums as such, they all eventually go thru this stage weather they are 9 months or 2-3 years old. When it's your own child you have alot more tolerance somehow. It also helps that you will pretty much know your child's personality somewhat by then so you'll have a good idea of what works and what doesn't..

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    Default How do you deal with crying?

    Haha oh gosh do you suddenly gain patience ? Because that's one skill I haven't developed

    I think I'd probably crack up at some of those tantrums - which way the pillow is? Lol.

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    I don't know how it works, its like a magic thing and soon as your baby is born your brain goes 'alright, let her have her patience before she goes loses her mind'.

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    Default How do you deal with crying?

    I deal with all crying with breastfeeds ESP if under 1yo. Bfs is the magic all fixer up solution in this house.

    Hungry ? Boob
    Tired? Boob
    Sad? Boob
    Lonely ? Boob
    Sore teeth ? Boob
    Big sister bit you? Boob

    And so it goes.

    So of in doubt - pop those boobies out!

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    Default Re: How do you deal with crying?

    Just remember.... Kids don't cry and tantrum just to be a pain in the bum. They are little people, they are learning and as a parent, it's best to have empathy and compassion for little people who are just trying to figure this world out.

    Trust me, the crying isn't annoying once you've had kids. I work in retail and oh my goodness did I hate crying! But once I had a child, now whenever I hear a child crying I immediately think "Oh no, what's wrong, how can I help?!"

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    Default Re: How do you deal with crying?

    Sometimes my kids crying really upsets me, and my instinct is to instantly try to fix what is wrong. Other times I'm able to stand back and observe objectively, and wonder what it is they are trying to achieve with all this noise lol.

    When my kids were really little someone on here said something about their cry being their voice, it's the only way they have to communicate, and they like to communicate a lot! When the girls got a bit older, I began to pick up different cries, they were hungry or uncomfortable, sick or to hot, tired or just playing me (that last one was when they would be crying their eyes out then there would be a pause while they listened to see what I was doing lol). Tantrums especially I find easy to handle, if they are cracking it just to get their own way, it has absolutely no effect on my stress levels cos i know it's just their immature way of trying to get their way. It's the whinging that drives me mad, neither talking nor crying, in that pitch that is designed to get under my skin :screwy::screwy::screwy:

    Now they are 3&5, and they still cry but they have words as well so that makes all the difference, it takes all the guess work out of it. It's definitely easier when it's your own child though, you know them and you can give an educated guess what's up.

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    Yeah... you know what? I don't deal with it well at all, actually. Other people's kids crying/throwing tanties I really couldn't give a stuff about - I'm not responsible for dealing with it and I can just leave the room if I'm getting a headache My own kid/s however... I'd do anything to make them stop crying. I honestly think it's my major problem area as a parent. It just stresses me out so much.

    Fortunately my daughter isn't much of a cryer and her tanties last about 2 seconds - so far - she hasn't hit the terrible 2s yet lol. But distraction is definitely my best tool. Oh and for newbies/littlies, a feed always used to stop the crying.

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    Default Re: How do you deal with crying?

    Quote Originally Posted by meatpopsicle View Post
    Yeah... you know what? I don't deal with it well at all, actually. Other people's kids crying/throwing tanties I really couldn't give a stuff about - I'm not responsible for dealing with it and I can just leave the room if I'm getting a headache My own kid/s however... I'd do anything to make them stop crying. I honestly think it's my major problem area as a parent. It just stresses me out so much.

    Fortunately my daughter isn't much of a cryer and her tanties last about 2 seconds - so far - she hasn't hit the terrible 2s yet lol. But distraction is definitely my best tool. Oh and for newbies/littlies, a feed always used to stop the crying.
    This is me too!!!!! DD is the same as yours as well., short tantrums or cries and won't stop if hungry. There is a book called Buddhism for motherscwhich I heart's good, I'm waiting to borrow it from the library.

    Deep breaths can help as does putting them in a safe place and leaving them to it for a few minutes while you compose yourself.

    I'm sure you will be just fine!

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