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    Default Adding father's name to birth certificate without mother

    Hi BubHub,

    I need advice and haven't been able to get it from CSA, BD&M, or Law Access.

    My name wasn't put on my son's birth certificate because his mother and I weren't certain of our future together. My son is now 4 years old and I've been the primary carer for three of those years.

    Not being on my son's birth certificate makes life difficult, especially when I have to complete paperwork (daycare, doctor/hospital visits, Government agencies, airplane tickets). His mother initially agreed to updating our son's birth certificate and changing his name, but has done her best to avoid filling out the paperwork for BD&M for almost 7 months. She's become unresponsive to discussions about the topic.

    I'm not sure what options I have for proceeding without the mother's involvement or if I can legally compel her to comply with my request. I'd like to know if any one here has been in this position and what actions they took to resolve the stalemate.

    Thank you very much.

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    I would think the best option would be to talk to a Family Law lawyer. This is their area of expertise and the would be able to best advise you.

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    Default Adding father's name to birth certificate without mother

    Have you sought legal advice? Can you have a DNA test done and send the results to BD&Ms?

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    If the child is in your care, I would do a dna test. Then take the results to bdm.

    Definitely ring bdm to find out, it might just be as easy as filling in a form.

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    I have left the father's name off my sons due do the same reason, at the time they told I could name him in my letter advising why i didn't want to name him so then a DNA test wouldnt be needed when/if i decide to add the father in the future.
    As the others as have said ask BDM again to see if a DNA test is enough to get yourself added.

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    Default Adding father's name to birth certificate without mother

    I would get a DNA test done and seek legal aid ASAP. Are u a legal guardian and do u receive any ftb or child support? Good luck

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    Quote Originally Posted by HugsBunny View Post
    Have you sought legal advice? Can you have a DNA test done and send the results to BD&Ms?
    I haven't sought legal advice yet. I called Law Access NSW but they couldn't give me any specific information; they did give me a phone number to somewhere else but I haven't called it yet.

    Quote Originally Posted by onionskin View Post
    If the child is in your care, I would do a dna test. Then take the results to bdm. Definitely ring bdm to find out, it might just be as easy as filling in a form.
    I called BD&M four more times since I made the thread, for a total of six times. The only useful response I got was on the last call, where it was said the best thing to do is to get a DNA test and apply to Family Court to issue a court order to BD&M.

    Quote Originally Posted by sandy cheeks View Post
    I would get a DNA test done and seek legal aid ASAP. Are u a legal guardian and do u receive any ftb or child support? Good luck
    I have ~80% care of my son but I'm not a legal guardian, carer, or parent. I don't receive FTB, CCB, CCR, or child support.

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    The only useful advice I received from BD&M is to do a DNA test and get an order from Family Court for BD&M to add me to the birth certificate. I didn't want to have to spend time in the court system but it appears this is the only way to proceed.

    I'm grateful to have direction but it's been very difficult getting anywhere with this. The people at BD&M don't appear to be equipped to handle this kind of situation. I don't know if I have a unique circumstance (father chasing the mother) that they haven't had to deal with very often, or if the system just isn't set up to work with the father, but I've read stories in the reverse (mother chasing father to be on birth certificate) that achieved results with much less time and effort.
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    I wish you the best and hope your problems are solved soon.

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    http://www.bdm.nsw.gov.au/births/add...DetToBirth.htm

    This is the link to the form to add a father/mother to a birth certificate:
    http://www.bdm.nsw.gov.au/PDF%20form...arent-0612.pdf

    I hope this helps. Legal Aid should be able to advise you of the process as they are familiar with similiar situations around child support matters.
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    I'm a bit confused as to why you're not on the birth certificate - even if your future with your ex was uncertain, you're still the child's father...? Are you saying you (initially) never intended to be involved and so didn't want to be on the BC?

    Were you absent for the first year or involved from the beginning? Why did the mother hand over full custody to you?

    Yeah you will likely need to seek legal advice.


 

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