It's hard to know how I feel about this. On one hand it's easy to look at the guy and think that he should be taking his contraception into his own hands and hers in her hands. At the same time though, yes he should be using condoms but he knew she was on the pill, he would know that pregnancy is unlikely at the very least! And without him knowing it, it's gone from unlikely to a very real possibility. He should know this. He should know that it's gone from unlikely (but possible) to almost a gaurantee.
The girl is an immature selfish git, if you want a baby that bad go to a sperm donor!
That said I DO think if YOU don't want a baby YOU use protection, if I was sleeping with someone especially early on no way would I trust their 'protection' I'd buy my own condoms
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Haven't read the whole thread but I would tell her exactly what I thought of her dishonest and despicable behaviour. I'm go smacked that people do things like this! I would tell him too. It's such a low thing to do. He has a right to have a say in such a big thing and she is betraying his trust. Just awful.
OP..Does your mate know the realities of having a baby with someone she hardly knows? I have been through it, and it is hell on earth. Not fun at all..and this won't be "her" baby, it will be their baby, and oh, it just doesn't bear thinking about. I feel for anyone put in this position, but most of all the child. You have to work so hard to have a happy life for your child.
So many things wrong with this that go way beyond the pregnancy itself and goes into this possible child's life.
At the end of the day in regards to contraceptive, if they have sex then they should be prepared for a pregnancy, STD and so on, yes very true but the real issue here is the deceit!!
I actually asked my Dh how he would of felt if 4 weeks into our relationship I messed around with condoms or birth control to try an fall pregnant without his knowledge.
He said; "I would feel ok about it, would try and be there for the child and would just see it as an accident, I would accept that this was a consequence of sex and try and work on our relationship in the best interest for the child, BUT if I ever found out it was done on purpose I would be extremely p!ssed off, I would also loose all respect for you and question your decisions once you became a parent"
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