+ Reply to Thread
Page 7 of 17 FirstFirst ... 56789 ... LastLast
Results 61 to 70 of 165
  1. #61
    Join Date
    Jun 2011
    Posts
    3,431
    Thanks
    1,018
    Thanked
    2,081
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Baracuda View Post
    Theres nothing wrong with wanting a baby and 'using' a guy to get one at all IMO - if a woman goes out and has a one night stand with some intention if getting pregnant and no intention if involving him then so be it - he's an idiot for not fail-safing his protection. 'I thought she was on the pill' is not a good enough reason and every individual is responsible for their own contraception.
    right... so you can just use the man intentionally to force him into a life long commitment because you are desperate for a baby. I guess its a certain type of a woman who is happy to have a child based on a lie. Shameful.

  2. #62
    Join Date
    Sep 2008
    Location
    Toowoomba
    Posts
    8,747
    Thanks
    2,851
    Thanked
    1,440
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    It's hard to know how I feel about this. On one hand it's easy to look at the guy and think that he should be taking his contraception into his own hands and hers in her hands. At the same time though, yes he should be using condoms but he knew she was on the pill, he would know that pregnancy is unlikely at the very least! And without him knowing it, it's gone from unlikely to a very real possibility. He should know this. He should know that it's gone from unlikely (but possible) to almost a gaurantee.

  3. #63
    Join Date
    Jul 2011
    Location
    Melbourne
    Posts
    5,005
    Thanks
    1,052
    Thanked
    3,524
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts

    Default What would you do in my situation!?

    Quote Originally Posted by Baracuda View Post
    Theres nothing wrong with wanting a baby and 'using' a guy to get one at all IMO - if a woman goes out and has a one night stand with some intention if getting pregnant and no intention if involving him then so be it - he's an idiot for not fail-safing his protection. 'I thought she was on the pill' is not a good enough reason and every individual is responsible for their own contraception.
    Oh. My. God.

    This is a joke right?

  4. The Following User Says Thank You to kw123 For This Useful Post:

    Kiplusthree  (03-12-2012)

  5. #64
    Join Date
    Sep 2005
    Location
    Perth
    Posts
    8,544
    Thanks
    1,351
    Thanked
    2,307
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by WineTime View Post
    Im probably going to get slammed. But in this situation? I'd demand that she tell the guy about her disgusting and deceitful plan. If she refused then I would tell her I'm going to tell him. Then I'd tell him and unfortunately, likely lose her as a friend.

    Tricking someone into have a baby is a revolting thing to do, not made any better by her baseless claim that she'll raise it on her own. Its total crap and it gives all women a bad name.

    If it was a male friend tricking his girlfriend into getting pregnant there's no way you, or anyone else here would be saying 'theres nothing you can do'.

    Gross.
    This

  6. #65
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Posts
    868
    Thanks
    345
    Thanked
    264
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts

    Default Re: What would you do in my situation!?

    The girl is an immature selfish git, if you want a baby that bad go to a sperm donor!

    That said I DO think if YOU don't want a baby YOU use protection, if I was sleeping with someone especially early on no way would I trust their 'protection' I'd buy my own condoms
    Sent from my HTC Wildfire S A510b using BubHub

  7. #66
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Posts
    868
    Thanks
    345
    Thanked
    264
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts

    Default Re: What would you do in my situation!?

    Quote Originally Posted by Meg2 View Post
    You don't know that they haven't been tested for STDs.
    The comparison to date rape was just to say that someone isn't to blame for trusting someone. I'm not saying 'it's like he is being date raped'. Goodness, these types of comparisons often aren't very well understoon on bubhub.
    It takes 3 months for hiv to show up in the system so even if they have 'clean' reports they should be using condoms for at least 3 months.

    Sent from my HTC Wildfire S A510b using BubHub

  8. #67
    Join Date
    Jun 2010
    Posts
    8,806
    Thanks
    7,267
    Thanked
    9,720
    Reviews
    5
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts

    Default What would you do in my situation!?

    Haven't read the whole thread but I would tell her exactly what I thought of her dishonest and despicable behaviour. I'm go smacked that people do things like this! I would tell him too. It's such a low thing to do. He has a right to have a say in such a big thing and she is betraying his trust. Just awful.

  9. #68
    Join Date
    Jan 2008
    Location
    The bright side of the road
    Posts
    3,833
    Thanks
    1,193
    Thanked
    974
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    OP..Does your mate know the realities of having a baby with someone she hardly knows? I have been through it, and it is hell on earth. Not fun at all..and this won't be "her" baby, it will be their baby, and oh, it just doesn't bear thinking about. I feel for anyone put in this position, but most of all the child. You have to work so hard to have a happy life for your child.

  10. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Bubmum For This Useful Post:

    Benji  (03-12-2012),shelle65  (03-12-2012)

  11. #69
    headoverfeet's Avatar
    headoverfeet is offline The truth will set you free, but first it will **** you off. -Gloria Steinem
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    Location
    Australia
    Posts
    18,954
    Thanks
    3,142
    Thanked
    4,892
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    Quote Originally Posted by WineTime View Post
    Although its great to know that as women, we not only have to rights to our body but apparently the rights to the bodies, future and presumably wage of any man we sleep with. Very liberated indeed! Tell your sons to watch out, ladies...
    He is having consensual sex he is not giving up the right to his body he is depositing sperm inside a woman if he doesnt want to make a baby then he should abstain from sex, no contraception is 100% effective. Women are told repeatedly to use contraception and they are shamed and bullied about keeping their legs closed if they don't want a baby when contraception fails. He is in a brand new relationship he is stupid for trusting her (and yes she is manipulative and I do think she is doing the wrong thing). She is not responsible for his actions if he chooses to trust her then he needs to step up and take responsibility for that trust.

  12. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to headoverfeet For This Useful Post:

    CazHazKidz  (04-12-2012),Cleigh  (03-12-2012),SPC  (03-12-2012)

  13. #70
    Join Date
    Feb 2012
    Posts
    1,320
    Thanks
    1,004
    Thanked
    783
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts

    Default What would you do in my situation!?

    So many things wrong with this that go way beyond the pregnancy itself and goes into this possible child's life.

    At the end of the day in regards to contraceptive, if they have sex then they should be prepared for a pregnancy, STD and so on, yes very true but the real issue here is the deceit!!

    I actually asked my Dh how he would of felt if 4 weeks into our relationship I messed around with condoms or birth control to try an fall pregnant without his knowledge.
    He said; "I would feel ok about it, would try and be there for the child and would just see it as an accident, I would accept that this was a consequence of sex and try and work on our relationship in the best interest for the child, BUT if I ever found out it was done on purpose I would be extremely p!ssed off, I would also loose all respect for you and question your decisions once you became a parent"


 

Similar Threads

  1. What would you do in this situation?
    By rainbow road in forum Conception & Fertility General Chat
    Replies: 2
    Last Post: 11-07-2012, 11:11
  2. What would you do in this situation??
    By 2BlueBirds in forum General Chat
    Replies: 7
    Last Post: 03-07-2012, 12:20
  3. What is appropriate in this situation?
    By rainbow road in forum General Chat
    Replies: 12
    Last Post: 28-05-2012, 21:25

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Pebblebee
Parents spend hours looking for things they need NOW. The keys, the remote, darling daughter's treasured teddy. Stop wasting precious time looking & start finding with Bub Hub reviewed Pebblebee Smart Tag. Simply attach a Pebblebee and find it fast.
sales & new stuffsee all
Pea Pods
Buy 2 Award Winning Pea Pods Reusable One Size Nappies for only $38 (in your choice of colours) and receive a FREE roll of Bamboo Liners. Don't miss out, we don't usually have discounts on the nappies, so grab this special offer!
Special Offer! Save $12
featured supporter
Softmats
Softmats specialises in safe, non-toxic, and durable play mats. The international Premium Dwinguler™ Play Mats and Premium Bubba Mat™ range of floor spaces are the best quality in the world.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!