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    Default What would you do in my situation!?

    This happened to my brother. His ex told him she was on the pill. He insisted they use condoms anyway as he was adamant that he didn't want children. She told him there was no way they'd fall pregnant on the pill. He was 21 so a little too niave. Two months later she was pregnant and my darling nephew is now 7 years old. Turns out she never took the pill.

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    The thing is though...yes he should be using protection but if he believes that she's on contraception then he's going into it thinking he's at least protected (against pregnancy) to a certain extent at the very least. But if she stops the pill without him knowing thent that takes away all protection. He needs to be aware of this. At this point...condom or not, he believes there is contraception and it's at least 99.5%? (is it?) reliable.

    There is a very big chance that he could become a father very soon...whereas before the chance was a lot smaller.

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    Default What would you do in my situation!?

    Typical use has an 8.7% failure rate. Perfect use is .3% failure.

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    You're friend is an idiot. Entitled, selfish and manipulative. And foolish.

    If she's lucky she'll get a baby. If she's unlucky she'll get an STI, HIV, Hepatitis or any of the other hideous diseases she's subjecting herself to.

    What would I do? I'd tell her that I thought she was being an a$$, that I thought she was being a selfish, self entitled cow.

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    Quote Originally Posted by headoverfeet View Post
    Typical use has an 8.7% failure rate. Perfect use is .3% failure.
    Oh yeh. Well there you go...he's going in knowing that there is a failure rate (I presume he knows...or maybe he doesn't?) and that it's between .3% and 8.7% while she's taking the pill. But while she's NOT taking the pill well there is no protection at all thus his chances of becoming daddy are probably more like 95% (random figure )

    So yeh he should be using condoms and taking his own contraception into his own hands...because the pill isn't 100% affective...but it's a whole lot more affective than 0% which is what he's facing WITHOUT HIS KNOWLEDGE!

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    I think in new sexual relationships, a baby can often be the least worrying consequence. People would have to have rocks in their heads to trust someone else not only with their life and health but also their fertility.

    even when I had fixed/permanent hormonal contraception, there was no way in heck a doodle was to go near me without a condom. Stupid, stupid, stupid.

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    You tell her what you think in the most tactful way you can, and then you leave it. It's not your life, and your loyalty is to her, not him. At least, that's how I view my friendships anyway. Friends always eff up, so I feel unless you're going to dump them whenever they do, you've got to be loyal (unless it's something extreme).

    You can still tell her your opinion though. Friends do that.
    I'd agree with this for smaller things but IMO, deliberately tricking an unsuspecting man into impregnating her IS something extreme. I'd find it very hard to continue the friendship knowing how happy this person is to manipulate others and betray trust. Jmo.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mathermy View Post
    Pmsl 'Don't worry babe, I got this!'

    Can you imagine? 'But my boyfriend told me he had a vasectomy...'

    I'm sure the sympathy would be a'rollin in!
    Lol. My son's father told me he was infertile. I have never had anyone pull the violins out for me, nor would I want them to. In fact, I have been had the old 'you got pregnant on purpose' pulled on ME!!!

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    When I was pregnant with my very unplanned baby several people accused, or plain assumed, that I'd become pregnant on purpose. It bemused and irritated me no end, because it was just the most inconvenient time, with the most inconvenient person and cost a bloody fortune and changed my whole life. This silly girl is the reason that kind of assumption is made. Could you please tell her to at least STFU about it? She's making the rest of us women with plain poor judgement look bad.

    And while you are at it, talk up known donors. My planned baby was conceived using a known donor and it's marvelous. There are plenty of lovely men who are happy to donate and the baby is all yours with no messy legal or emotional problems. So much nicer for the baby to be wanted by both people creating them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SPC View Post
    Could you please tell her to at least STFU about it? She's making the rest of us women with plain poor judgement look bad.
    Baahaahaaa! I had to laugh at this! Even when people were saying "Having sex without a condom before having STD checks and only 4 weeks into relationships....not very smart blah blah blah" I'm nodding and going "Er....yes (looks sideways)...very...irresponsible people *cough*"

    Yes I was one of them...and yes fell pregnant (not planned but we were so in luuurrrrrve and didn't care or remember or something) lost the baby and we were devastated and I was 30!!! Yes poor judgement here too. But at least I'm married to him now and no neither of us had any STD's...thank the god.

    Don't do what Donny Don't does

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