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    Default Work situation, what would you do.

    In my family and with friends it is kind of the norm to return to work casual/part time when bub is around 1.
    When I went on mat leave a year ago, I told my work that i would return feb 2013 when ds turns 1. At the time that suited us financially.
    Anyway, since then Dh has a higher paying job and I can actually afford to stay home a little longer. Maybe until ds is 2-3yrs old
    I've already signed forms and work as organized my schedule for next year (3 days per week) My childrens carer will be my mum/MIL. I have another ds who is 3yrs.

    Should I 'beg' work to allow me to stay home a little longer or just bite the bullet and go back?

    (I will have a cleaner and dinners cooked by my mum/MIL when I work, so that's all looked after!!)

    Im so confused.
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    I've had the same type of inner conflict. After returning 2 days per week when DS was 7 months, I have decided to not return. I feel like I've got the rest of my life to work and it was becoming stressful for us (my DH travels to work, long hours). You're a teacher like me aren't you? If so, you are entitled to 7 years family leave and they have to keep your position.

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    You never get that time again with your kids, so if you can and want to id stay home! For me personally id rather regret career decisions than time with my kids.
    Good luck making a decision!

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    Default Work situation, what would you do.

    Just ask your self were you would be happiest spending your days :-)

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    Do you need to "beg" them for another 12 months? I know when I went on mat leave the last 2 times I was offered a further 12 months unpaid maternity leave which is now law.

    I wound up going back this time when DS1 was just under 18 months and felt much better about that than at 12 months.

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    Default Work situation, what would you do.

    I'd go back but that's just me - I want to balance work and family and will hopefully return three days when DS is 10 months old.

    You don't need to beg though... You have the right to request a further 12 months maternity leave. They can refuse but need to provide reasonable business grounds....

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    Yes, teaching.
    I might have to beg as my timetable is already done, classes allocated and according to the union I had to let them know by nov 1st.
    I'm not sure if I should ask my principle if my current replacement would like to stay on if they havent already found another job.


    (oh my office really can't stand my replacement and I know they'll be upset if I don't return) I'm pretty close with them all.

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    Default Work situation, what would you do.

    I've just gone back as my leave was up and I'd give my right arm to be back at home with my ds

    But...... Do whatever your gut is telling you

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    You're clearly not wanting to let anybody down but think about what you really want. Schools have to re-do timetables, replacements etc all the time. If you want another 12 months then I would speak to your principal.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kw123 View Post
    I'd go back but that's just me - I want to balance work and family and will hopefully return three days when DS is 10 months old.

    You don't need to beg though... You have the right to request a further 12 months maternity leave. They can refuse but need to provide reasonable business grounds....
    If I had of told them before nov 1, they would have been ok.
    Also I don't really like burdening my mum / MIL when I don't 'really' have to.


 

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