I just deleted my post i hate that!!
so start again.
If you are going to Newcastle you must be close to me? How long does it take you to get there?
We are booked in for surgery on the 15th of Feb so started sniffing yesterday. Everything has moved quite quickly since we found this all out.
They gave my DH a 20% chance after his Inhibin B test came back as >10 and is FSH level was 31. He did a math equation to figure it out but he said you cant follow it fully. Other people have scored higher and haven't found any so i think you just got to go in and have a look.
Your DH will hopefully come around with some time. In the begining i was dead against using a donor but once the options are laid out we know it might be our only option. My Dh says there is alot more to being a father than getting a girl pregnant. He knows he will be there from the "conception" to the birth so we can still experience all of it together. Have you thought about seeing a counsellor? Sometimes they can help rationalise things. All i can say is you need time. Eventually your DH will hopefully become more open to the idea. Im sure once they go through the IVF process he will see its not like an affair at all! Nothing sexy about it!
It would be great to have another young couple going through the same situation as us. I know how isolating it can be with not wanting to tell many people. Hope things are starting to look up for you