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    Hi.
    DD (6) is currently undergoing some important genetic and neuro testing.
    Chances are that she will be offered an appointment for more testing while in her fathers care this xmas holidays.

    Fo BF to take DD to any appointments, it will be a 7 or 10hr trip each way for him.
    He says he'll take DD (and i'll meet them there as i will not miss her appointments) but what if he doesnt? What if he refuses to take her, or 'something comes up' and he wont take her?

    She cannot miss these appointments as theyre extrememly important to her health and well being.


    We have court orders saying when BF has her, changeovers, telling the other parent about appointments etc but nothing to say the parent who has DD MUST take her to an appointment.

    I guess Im wondering what will happen legally if BF refuses to take her.

    (im already putting money aside incase I have to drive the 18hrs to go and get her and take her to the appointment myself grrrrrr).

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    Im not sure of the dates but a some specialists/doctors/hospitals close appointments for a week or so in January.
    Also could you tell them you are unavailable that week and you have a holiday booked 7hours away? Chances are they will be understanding.
    Otherwise... fingers crossed everything works out with BF surely he understands. My ex is the same with DD he will 'forget' appointments and special things.

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    Default Appointments in BF's care

    That's a crap situation, fingers crossed he does the right thing. You should be able to rely on him & it's wrong if you can't but maybe from now on only book appointments in your time.

    You shouldn't have to but if it saves you the stress

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    Usually I would only book in my time, but these things are really important and need to be done asap. Plus actually getting in is the tough part, and if i knock back an appointment it could add months to the wait :s

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    Default Appointments in BF's care

    Legally, if he doesn't take her, you can't do anything. You said your orders don't specify that he has to. But he has said he will so hopefully he does. I don't know your whole situation but I would say your best bet is to make sure he understands how important these tests are.


 

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