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    One of the main reasons I kept my very inconvenient accidental baby, at 34, was because I had been urged for years by a close friend to not leave it too late to have children. She did IVF for more than ten years and is childless.

    Many women are completely inexperienced with babies. I think it's reasonable to discuss it. And also to discuss how having babies really close together is not always such a great plan, but if you want more than one and start at 35 it may be your only option.

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    I haven't read many posts. Sorry.

    I am 25, mother of one, and a uni student. I have a good friend who is 39, never been married and childless. She has been broken up with her last bf for almost 2 yrs now but is still not over him. Seriously, she has a photo of him in her diary.

    Now I love her and respect her very much, but it is so very awkward when she brings up her ideal future... The one where she is married to a good man that she loves and has kids... Bio kids. I kinda smile and mumble and say supportive things but jeez louise. She's almost 40 and single. It's not by choice or design, it's a matter of how her life has played out. I admire her for not giving up on her happy ending. It's just truly awkward when I just don't believe she'll be birthing any babies :/

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    Quote Originally Posted by FirstTimeMummy2012 View Post
    I'm 34 in 6 weeks ... does that make me great granny??
    Well I was 39 when I had my third. Surely I win!?!?

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    I havnt had a chance to read through everything... But I have a few "older" first time mums in my mothers group.... I know that one is 45 and her lo will be 1 this month... She never really wanted kids, and only met her partner a few years ago and then decided she wanted kids (luckily enough for her she was able to conceive fairly easily)
    Also a few others, wanted to wait until they were financially stable or had gotten to a certain point in their career...,
    One thing we did observe (and every in the group commented on) was how quickly I "recovered" from child birth, compared to them, I was up walking around the same day, and majority of them took at least a few days - 2 weeks. (Fyi I'm 19 - and the only one under 30 In the group)

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    I've heard different things from my friends/cousins - it seems that the ones who were actively doing exercises and were the "sporty" type, as long as they had natural births they were also up and into it straight away - no matter what age. They also lost the weight quicker too obviously.
    I hoping its a fit thing as I would hate to be layed up when the best present ever is waiting!
    I'm hoping to take up swimming second trimester and even thou I hate yoga I might get a home DVD. I'm just walking ATM and often feel like running but am too scared I'll hurt baby.
    Any ladies got any ideas to get birth fit, and in Brisbane?

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    Quote Originally Posted by perthmumm View Post
    I havnt had a chance to read through everything... But I have a few "older" first time mums in my mothers group.... I know that one is 45 and her lo will be 1 this month... She never really wanted kids, and only met her partner a few years ago and then decided she wanted kids (luckily enough for her she was able to conceive fairly easily)
    Also a few others, wanted to wait until they were financially stable or had gotten to a certain point in their career...,
    One thing we did observe (and every in the group commented on) was how quickly I "recovered" from child birth, compared to them, I was up walking around the same day, and majority of them took at least a few days - 2 weeks. (Fyi I'm 19 - and the only one under 30 In the group)
    I'm 31, just had my second, got up and walked straight away. Most people do unless they've had a c sect. I don't know anyone who hasn't walked the same day as a natural birth!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Atropos View Post
    I'm 31, just had my second, got up and walked straight away. Most people do unless they've had a c sect. I don't know anyone who hasn't walked the same day as a natural birth!
    I had a natural birth 4 hour labor 1 hour pushing and I was 22. I didn't walk until 2 days later due to hemorrhage of 2.1 litres and continuos loss afterwards .
    Not everyone is as lucky :-) there are some that are bed ridden after natural as well as c section .

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    Quote Originally Posted by FearlessLeader View Post
    Let me preface this by saying I know this is a complex subject that touches a nerve for many people. And I'm not coming from a judgey or assumey place, but as a concerned friend.

    I have lots of friends (nearly all of my friends actually) who are in their early 30's, in stable relationships, established in good careers. They want kids 'one day' but don't really think of it as happening any time soon. Most say they will start trying in their mid 30's. I just think this is crazy, and they could potentially be setting themselves up for a lot of heartache, especially if they want more than one child, in which case they will potentially be going for round 2 in their late 30's early 40's. I really don't think many of them have thought about the possibility of it being difficult for them.
    Would you say something to them? I don't want to be that smug, annoying 'everyone should have babies like me' friend, and I know that it's likely that for some it's a lot more complicated than all that, but I honestly want to shake them sometimes and shout 'what the hell are you waiting for??'

    ETA (i said this in a later post but i think it may be getting missed by some) I would NEVER bring up the topic myself, I'm talking more about situations where friends have brought up 'putting off' having kids in conversations themselves- these are the times I wonder how much to say on the matter myself.

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    I agree with you, and if it comes up I don't think there is harm in mentioning your view, in a gentle way.

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    Default Leaving it too late

    I'm 39!
    Had my first at 36 and second at 38.
    I'm deffo in the geriatric range!!

    I had my kids through IVF too.

    I can't say I really thought too much about my age regarding conceiving and fertility.

    My DH and I got together at 30 and married by 32. We didn't start trying until I was about 34. We started IVF at 35.
    We just weren't ready earlier.
    If someone had spoken to me about leaving it late, I think I may have gotten offended. That would be unsolicited advice however. If there was a discussion happening regarding fertility rates and decline with age, which was not personal and purely objective, then I wouldn't have taken offence, just listened to the stats.


 

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