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    Default Things you think but don't say (no judging!!)

    I mind judged a lot yesterday.
    We were at a water park.. It was packed.
    Now I was freaking out over having to show my body.
    I have lost a heap of weight and have become quite fit, if I could explain how my body looks now, it would be that some parts need a good iron! Lol.
    Yep loose skin so I went out and bought a Kaftan and appropriate togs.

    What in the hell was I worried about!!!
    Apparently a bikini is a free for all these days
    It's not that I think larger people are disgusting, far from it!
    I use to weigh 117kgs.. I know what it's like to be larger.. Even now being at 62kgs I just wouldn't do it..
    But some of the people wearing bikinis!! I know I sound horrible.. It wasn't just the bikinis but the d!ck togs too..

    At the end of the day when I was large I wouldn't have worn a bikini, it was me who got my body like that so things like not wearing revealing clothes that I might of really liked was a price I had to pay.
    Yes I have changed my body but I still wouldn't do it.. I have problem areas, areas only my husband would see not a a large group of people.
    I just don't know WHY some people have no self respect when it comes their clothing choices.

    It's not just the over weight ones either.. If I wanted to see the flaps of your vagina poking through your togs/clothes I would have looked up some porn.. I also didn't like seeing your tampon string hanging out of the side of your bikini!

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    Lol I saw a chicky in those ridiculously high platform high heels, string bikini, full make up , jewelery, big sunnies and *big hair* trip trapping around a water park with little ones.

    .... I was kinda hoping she'd fall down....


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    Quote Originally Posted by boobycino View Post
    lol i saw a chicky in those ridiculously high platform high heels, string bikini, full make up , jewelery, big sunnies and *big hair* trip trapping around a water park with little ones.

    .... I was kinda hoping she'd fall down....


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    Quote Originally Posted by FirstTimeMummy2012 View Post
    Sorry to de-rail a little OP but I have a genuine question to those who judge mush feeders ... uhm .. why?? It just doesn't make sense to me to be judging a mother who makes her baby's food from scratch. Isn't BLW the lazy option? Not trying to be smart .. just seriously genuinely confused
    I don't judge anyone for feeding their children healthy food - what ever way it is prepared! But I'm not sure why people think BLW is lazy? DS ate what we did from 8 months, before that i would steam/roast or poach his food , the only thing extra a puree feeder would add would be to then blend it up, so i saved maybe a minute or two?
    I cook all our meals "from scratch" so not sure why there is confusion

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    Quote Originally Posted by EchoSummers View Post
    That's a fair question. Everytime I would try and explain to my parents why I wouldn't (couldn't) eat something without it making me gag, they put it down to me being 'fussy' 'precious' or 'melodramatic'. I didn't know dyspraxia existed, i just thought i was weird. It was hard to verbalise and I just stopped trying when it was clear I wasn't getting any 'special' accommodations. It was easier to skip a meal or two.

    They were very strict and simply refused to change anything regarding their cooking / shopping / food storage habits to facilitate my (undiagnosed) sensory issues. Coming from a big family it was very much seen as a hassle to accommodate any specific preferences. We were also very poor so my dad always bought bread in bulk and froze it straight away for example, as well as bulk amounts of 'lunch foods' or whatever that i couldn't eat.

    It also comes down to the fact that my parents didn't cook that often, and when they did it was considered disobedient to not eat what they made. When something like a frozen pizza was made, it would be cooked too crunchy which was agony for me.

    All that does sound precious, which I guess is why my parents refused to 'indulge' me, even when it would be a simple thing like separating a serve for me that disnt have combined flavouring or letting me eat the 'plain' flavour option from the homebrand snack packs for lunch instead of letting me get what was available if my siblings had gotten to it first.

    when I was 15 and got a job I purchased as much of my own food as I could but I also had to buy school books, public transport and things like that. I just got used to scraping what I could together, or only eating one fifth of a meal, etc.
    I am sorry your parents did that to you. I have dd like you (not quite as bad) but it really isn't that hard to separate parts or modify recipes. I never make her own meals as such but I modify the family meals to suit her needs and always have fall back foods in the fridge/cupboard if she can't eat something.

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    Oh im a total cow as most of you know, there are many things i think and do not say lol

    I hate people that do the following

    Stare at kids or adult in wheelchairs and then look away when the child or mum or who ever is pushing the chair makes eyecontact. It is fine to look but to be so rude as to stare then look away its f*cking rude.

    If you are so rude to stare at a child in a wheelchair if they happen to speak to you no matter how mumbled or mixed it is RESPOND in a nice way you have got there attention by gawking at them dont freak out when they talk to you.

    People that comment about how my DD doesnt eat any food when we go out for lunch, NO she is not naughty NO i am not ordering her the wrong food she doesnt eat but i like to order her a salad to play with and YES i am aware she only plays with her food and does not eat it.

    When a person gets out of a wheelchair and stand up do not stare at them or coment to your friend that they are a fraud for using a wheelchair or act like some godly miracle has happened, some wheelchair uses can walk a little bit.

    if you see a mum telling of a child with SN do not assmume the mum is just being a cow cause SN kids are always lovely and well behaved, they are not they may be gorgeous and wonderful little people but believe me when i say they can also play up like any neuro typical child

    if a child is screaming and having a tantrum in the shops dont assume the mother is useless and not taking care of her kid, dont assume the kid is a little sh*t all the time, dont assume that the kid has SN dont assume anything at all, For all you know the child may be having a bad day and the mum may be exhausted or anything there could be a multitude of reasons why do not assume the worst

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rachell View Post
    I mind judged a lot yesterday.
    We were at a water park.. It was packed.
    Now I was freaking out over having to show my body.
    I have lost a heap of weight and have become quite fit, if I could explain how my body looks now, it would be that some parts need a good iron! Lol.
    Yep loose skin so I went out and bought a Kaftan and appropriate togs.

    What in the hell was I worried about!!!
    Apparently a bikini is a free for all these days
    It's not that I think larger people are disgusting, far from it!
    I use to weigh 117kgs.. I know what it's like to be larger.. Even now being at 62kgs I just wouldn't do it..
    But some of the people wearing bikinis!! I know I sound horrible.. It wasn't just the bikinis but the d!ck togs too..

    At the end of the day when I was large I wouldn't have worn a bikini, it was me who got my body like that so things like not wearing revealing clothes that I might of really liked was a price I had to pay.
    Yes I have changed my body but I still wouldn't do it.. I have problem areas, areas only my husband would see not a a large group of people.
    I just don't know WHY some people have no self respect when it comes their clothing choices.

    It's not just the over weight ones either.. If I wanted to see the flaps of your vagina poking through your togs/clothes I would have looked up some porn.. I also didn't like seeing your tampon string hanging out of the side of your bikini!
    Honestly, I look at this a different way. I've always been very body conscious, whatever weight I happened to be and have spent a good portion of my life 'covering up' and living according to someone elses fashion 'rules'. Most of this time was spent feeling hot, uncomfortable & frumpy and missing out. I don't think enjoying your life is a prize given only to those thin and/or beautiful. It's our god given right.

    Those people you see out there enjoying there life care free in bikinis, I envy that and honestly think that it shows a lot of self love and respect that they feel free and comfortable enough in their own skin to do so, regardless of what other people might think of them. In situations like these I think our reactions are more about us than about the people we judge.

    But zomg the tampon thing!!! I would probably faint at that!

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    Quote Originally Posted by FirstTimeMummy2012 View Post
    There's a lady who lives a few doors down from my parents place who has 7 children to 5 different fathers and to top it off she's in her early 40's and her boyfriend who just moved in with her is only 18!!

    If you saw her ... *shudder*

    Seriously how can one not judge?
    She probably has little self esteem and a background which has not enabled her to be successful at stable relationships or make good choices.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sunnyflower View Post
    She probably has little self esteem and a background which has not enabled her to be successful at stable relationships or make good choices.
    So does that make it ok? Is it ok that she leaves her kids on her own for days while she goes out on drug benders with her 18 yo boyfriend? I guess her terrible upbringing excuses that does it?

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    Quote Originally Posted by FirstTimeMummy2012 View Post
    So does that make it ok? Is it ok that she leaves her kids on her own for days while she goes out on drug benders with her 18 yo boyfriend? I guess her terrible upbringing excuses that does it?
    You didn't mention that in your previous post and I don't think sunnyflower was insinuating it was ok.

    I hope someone has made a call to docs in regard to your neighbour, those kids deserve better.


 

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