Getting a degree is nowhere near the end of your problems as a working parent (single or otherwise). Most professional graduate positions are highly competitive and full-time. You have zero bargaining power as you are competing against thousands of other intelligent, accomplished uni graduates for a job. If you are lucky enough to get a graduate position, then you usually have to impress to be kept on. This means working late nights, sometimes working weekends, basically being ready to jump whenever the boss asks.
When I went back to work after having DD, I was sufficiently senior to be able to leave at 5.30 to pick her up from daycare without any problems. However a friend in his graduate year whose wife had a baby was called to come into work the day after the baby was born. He had no choice. Tell the boss to shove it = goodbye any chance of a permanent position, hello unemployment and years of study down the drain.
Can you imagine a single mother with a child under 12 years of age surviving a grad year?? I sure as hell can't.
Do you think some people wake up in the morning and say "I think I will spend my life on welfare because it will be so much fun raising kids on the poverty line!" ???
the problem with a lot of people's mentality is that single mum being a stay at home mum = bad. Partnered mum being a stay at home mum = great!
Your opinion is rather insulting and very narrow minded.
Just to let you know, I'm not a single mother. We live in a two high income household. Yet, I am fortunate enough not to have my head up my butt.
You never know what's around the corner and one day life might just make you live what you have judged .
I said i am happy to pay for those who have hit a rough patch, i am happy to pay until kids are school age but for long term bludgers no I'm not happy to pay and for those that despite having kids at school all day decide they cant work or study. I think in those circumstances they should be made to work for their handout. Never said leave them to starve, that's you putting your own interpretation and words into my comments.
I am the child of a single mother, but she worked and she didn't receive support because she believes you should work for what you are given.
I will be returning to work despite being considered "middle income" because we have to work for the things we need. That's how life is.
Oh and the comment about being jealous of those on welfare, thank you sooo much I needed a great laugh!!!
My birth mother had the right to stay home on welfare to raise kids and she did and, they too are all welfare moms the only child that isnt a welfare mom out of her 8 kids is me.
We have to break the cycle and I think that is what the government is trying to do. Even having the people who cant find jobs go out and do volunteer work for their pay helps the kids see the parent work and they are prob less likely to follow the welfare cycle.
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