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    Default Putting concealer on a small child... wrong or acceptable?

    I'm letting you all judge me... lol... to bring you this question.

    DD has quite pale skin, and gets a lot of dark circles under her eyes. She always has. They thought it might be a result of poor sleep due to anedoids and massive tonsils... they've been removed, still massive circles. The fact her skin is so pale probably doesn't help.

    Anyway, it bothers her... she mentions it every now and again... and yesterday, requested I put concealer under her eyes to cover them. She's 7. (she knows about concealer... she's seen me doing my own/others make-up before).

    I obliged and put some concealer under her eyes to... well, conceal it. lol.

    She was very happy with the results. There was no other make-up used, just concealer well-blended.

    Now I have no problem with what I did... it was a small act that made her feel confident and happy for a short while... but while I was doing it, I was thinking, "Yep... just another tick on the list of what makes me a horrible parent in the books of some..." lol.

    So... in your opinion... is it okay to put concealer on a small child where they request it?

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    Default Re: Putting concealer on a small child... wrong or acceptable?

    my DD is only 19 months so I can't comment from experience but if it's something that she requested and gives her the confidence I don't see any harm.



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    Default Putting concealer on a small child... wrong or acceptable?

    I think in the way you described it, I can't see why it's not fine. You boosted her esteem and made her feel confident. You used it to even the skin tone where it's needed. I don't see any issues at all.

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    If she wants to wear it and has asked to then I don't see why not. But then I also have no issues with kids doing beauty/dance competitions and wearing makeup if they want to. I also dont have a daughter.

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    I wouldn't personally. Sometimes DS will get into my make up when I have it out on the bathroom counter and will walk out with pink and black all over him and red lips but that's just play. I wouldn't do/allow it as part of a daily routine, but in saying that I don't really hold judgement either way on you doing it.

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    Missie, I'm kind of the same... but then I put myself in her shoes too and am a wee bit torn.

    She's started on about being teased about her hairy legs... that was me back when I was her age... the my hair is much darker than hers, so my legs hairs were more obvious than hers are. Still, I know how that felt, and how angry and hurt I was that my mother wouldn't let me shave them until I was 12. Now I'm realising that this may be an issue for me soon... though for now, she personally doesn't agree that her legs are hairy which is a good thing.

    I don't think anyone has teased her about her dark circles though... I think that's just something she notices herself... but I totally understand what you mean. I don't want her to think something is wrong with her and she needs to remedy that. She's got all her adult life to hate herself... I don't want her starting now.

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    Seeing that your DD is generally quite confident AND she shared her feelings with you AND seeing this has been a once off - then I have no problems with it - I'm glad she felt happy that you listened to her problem and supported her.

    As for an on going solution? - well you know your DD best and that's your call.

    In the mean time, dark rings under eyes can be a symptom of a few conditions and I'd get them checked out and ruled out (ie food intolerences etc)

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    Default Putting concealer on a small child... wrong or acceptable?

    I don't see a problem with it. Obviously wouldn't do it all the time but if it made her happy at that time then why not.. And at least she asked and talked to you about it.

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    When I first saw the title of the thread my first thought was no, not a good idea, because if an adult is telling a child that they need make up to correct something about themselves it sends a bad message, particularly if the child has not mentioned it. But, as she has raised the issue and asked I think that is fair enough, as long as it comes with a lot of affirmation that she is just fine without it too.

    My sister has gone through similar with my niece and her leg hair. Let her remove the hair or have her being picked on by the nasty brats at school. She went with supervised removal of hair.

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    How does she know what dark circles are and that they're not suppose to be there? That'd be my first question. Like who told her that they don't look 'right' you know what I mean?

    I wouldn't put makeup on a child unless they asked for it to conceal a flaw but my children aren't even aware they have flaws and probably won't until someone points it out...someone in the playground? I have teens who have a few pimples even and they have never asked for nor wear make up - yet! I guess because it's not a problem until it's a problem and usually that's not until someone points it out or mentions it or gives them the idea that it shouldn't be there.

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