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    I have a fantastic relationship with my inlaws but have said from the start of this pregnancy that I just want DF and I in the labour room and I want the girls to meet their sibling before anyone else.
    I have said to DF that if his family are in the waiting room that they will have to wait for the girls but tonight he just said I was anal and if they're waiting they can meet her first.
    It really p!ssed me off, I love my inlaws but it's the girls' sister and I feel they have that right.

    Am I just being anal?

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    Yes and no. I'd feel the same as you, however to some people it's not a big deal.

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    No, not anal! Your choice. And of course sibbies get to meet first! In laws are being selfish, and hubby should back you up.

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    Id Tell them to wait at home (in the nicest possible way of course) and you will call them when u are ready for visitors to give ur little family time alone to bond

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    i'd put my foot down and say that the girls should meet their sister first!!.... but that could just be me.

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    Nup id do the same!!I love my in laws too but my daughters met their baby sister first!!as they will any more siblings :-)

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    I don't think you are. And I think you need to speak gently with hubby so that he can see how important it is to you. And he can support you.

    It's a special time for your family, I think you need to explain that to him. Since I'm only expecting my first I hardly can give an opinion but I would think those first moments are special-to be spent with DH and your children. And then extended family when the time is right.

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    No you're not being anal or unreasonable. If anything it's your husband who's being unreasonable (and kind of a sack) by calling you anal.

    But probably best to follow previous post advice and discuss it with him gently so he can understand your point of view. He might just not be thinking about it from your side.

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    Not anal.

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    Thanks ladies, I didn't think I was but I am quite hormonal lol.
    They're very excited and have been really supportive and involved but the kids obviously come first.

    I'll bring it up again with DF a bit later when I'm not cranky about it lol.


 

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