How do other Hubbers go about their days with/without Step children?
I feel like my life with DD has to be kept a secret from Dsd to keep the peace and It isn't fair on anyone!
Dd is 18months and loves farm animals, the zoo, swimming at the pools, indoor/outdoor play grounds, all things that bore the crap out of SD who is 12 ... but if we go without her she feels left out and if we wait and go with her she mopes and is grumpy so its feels like we can't win. DH still goes out with Sd to movies, fishing etc all thing DD is too young for but DSd still seems put out.
DSD and I have a good relationship but she seems annoyed at having to share me with DD even though I have tried explaining to Dsd that when she was younger her mum and dad did all the same things and time with her.
Her reactions, moody, attention seeking behaviours make it difficult to want to make extra effort on our relationship, I work full time running my own business, have a toddler and trying to keep my realationship afloat.
DH and I had a weekend away and couldn't mention it infront of SD as she would be jealous of the baby getting to go (she doesn't understand the huge difference in age gap) DD is in bed at 6 so DH and I have alone time where as SD is up till 10pm on weekends...
At home shes an only child and gets to make many decisions along side her mum, she is almost treated like mums life partner instead of the child.
Anyway how do you make things fair on the Step kids who are between houses?
I don't feel we should hide anything as we have a life too, DSD does things at her mums house that DD misses out on I think by trying to protect Dsd we are making a rod for our own backs down the track.
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