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    Thumbs down WHY are people so stupid?

    My DPs boss is looking for a GF. He is a lovely man, but my gawd he is stupid!

    He joined dating sites. He has VERY high standards. He is in his 50s, finatially stable in his own job, he has a lot going for him.

    Unfortunately he seems to attract freakin gold diggers. Women over seas looking for a way into Australia, telling him to send money over to go shopping and buy her tickets to Australia and all sorts. The poor man has tried meeting a lady down south from here but she apparently stood him up.

    This one lady in Malaysia asked for money, and the softy he is sent her a couple hundred. She then says to buy her a tcket over here, so he did. Then she is saying she needs about 600USD for medical tests before she can fly out. THEN she says she needs more for shopping to 'prepare' for when she meets him.

    She is all "Oh baby, I love you. I want you" and he thinks he has found the real deal. Because he is illiterate he has trouble chatting online with her, my DP has been talking for him some days at work and tonight he was on for him at home. I jumped on and read it through and i just cant believe the BS she has been saying.

    I feel so sorry for this man He is being played but he is just so desperate he doesnt want to see it.

    If he didnt have such high standard.... You know, young, slim, gorgeous... So something like a 25 year old with a stunning body, he would find a lovely older lady his age and could possibly meet *the one*.

    I just want to help him lol but doubt he would like anyone I find for him because I have more realistic standards lol

    Just a vent really.

    I know now of 4 men who have 'mail order brides' Each to their own as long as they understand what they are getting into, he obviously doesnt.

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    He sounds like he has the opposite of high standards, if all he wants is someone slim, young and attractive. Wanting someone smart, sexy and interesting would be my definition of high standards. Sounds like he's after a trophy. Also if he's not very literate he may be intimidated by a woman closer to his age who has lived a full life.

    It's a shame he's getting taken for a ride, but if he met someone who made him happy who cares what part of the world she comes from?

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    Yeah I guess your right on the standard thing lol I guess I just mean he isnt being very realistic about it.
    I would be very happy for him where ever he met someone, but someone who isnt taking him for a ride

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    Ummm what do you expect? He wants a 25 year old with a hot body. The man in in his 50s and can't even read or write.
    Sorry but no decent 25 year old is going to go for a man like that.
    Of course he will get played.
    He doesn't sound like a very bright person.

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    Unfortunately you can't save people from themselves. If your DH has pointed out to him that it's a scam and he continues on with it, well...

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    Poor dude. Hope he finds someone he can have a good conversation with and who he feels totally chuffed to have hanging off his arm.

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    I think they're all as bad as each other - obviously he's receiving emails from women wanting a ticket to Aus/money, but he wants a hot body. So both are using each other for the wrong reasons IMO.

    Really might be time to give up the overseas online dating and try to find true love, even if she's not physically perfect.

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    Default WHY are people so stupid?

    No sympathy at all!

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    Quote Originally Posted by shelle65 View Post
    Unfortunately you can't save people from themselves. If your DH has pointed out to him that it's a scam and he continues on with it, well...
    Yeah I have to agree... Does he have rocks in his head??

    I know a guy like this. Being in a relationship full-stop is more important tthan being with someone great for him. He is a bit old fashioned and sexist in his attitudes and goes for young, naive women with low self-esteem/no personality, then wonders why they sponge off him and lack motivation! Hmmmm what can ya do!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chew the Mintie View Post
    No sympathy at all!

    I feel a bit like this. I asked DP if he was still going to continue on with her and he said probably. I said I hope he gets hurts so then MAYBE he wil learn.


 

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