+ Reply to Thread
Page 4 of 10 FirstFirst ... 23456 ... LastLast
Results 31 to 40 of 91
  1. #31
    Join Date
    Sep 2010
    Posts
    1,581
    Thanks
    748
    Thanked
    733
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts

    Default Does your DH/DP look at porn?

    Yep DH does & so do I. Sometimes we watch together other times separate.

    No big deal in our house

  2. #32
    Join Date
    May 2011
    Posts
    7,878
    Thanks
    3,397
    Thanked
    5,160
    Reviews
    8
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    No never, it makes him feel weird. Especially when dudes sit around watching it together.

    I really struggle with this whole subject, I go between the freedom of adults making choices blah, blah, blah and the reality of what hardcore porn does to families, children and people that are exploited.

    After a few visits to Amsterdam and seeing how hardcore some of it is, I just don't think it's a good thing for anyone, especially in an ongoing way. I have also seen several docos around this and a movie called $ex Traffic which have really changed my views.

  3. The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to babyla For This Useful Post:

    Annabella  (19-11-2012),misskittyfantastico  (19-11-2012),MissMuppet  (20-11-2012),SoThisIsLove  (19-11-2012)

  4. #33
    Join Date
    Jan 2012
    Posts
    795
    Thanks
    109
    Thanked
    411
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by WineTime View Post
    When people say 'he tells me when he does it' what does that mean? Like he just comes in and goes hey honey I looked at some awesome porn today.

    Or do you mean if you ask then he tells you?

    Haha, yep pretty much. Or he will tell me he is going to.

    Other times I ask and he will tell me. He doesn't look at it on a regular basis. I would probably feel uncomfortable with that.

  5. #34
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Location
    Perth
    Posts
    1,237
    Thanks
    599
    Thanked
    271
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    He threw out all his porn when I moved in and really only watches it with me these days. That been said, he might. I dont really know. I dont mind these days. It as different in my last relationship but with him I dont mind.

  6. #35
    Join Date
    Feb 2012
    Posts
    1,320
    Thanks
    1,004
    Thanked
    783
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts

    Default Does your DH/DP look at porn?

    Quote Originally Posted by babyla View Post
    After a few visits to Amsterdam and seeing how hardcore some of it is, I just don't think it's a good thing for anyone, especially in an ongoing way. I have also seen several docos around this and a movie called $ex Traffic which have really changed my views.
    This.
    It makes me sick as to where the profits go.

  7. The Following User Says Thank You to Liddybugs For This Useful Post:

    misskittyfantastico  (19-11-2012)

  8. #36
    Join Date
    May 2011
    Posts
    7,878
    Thanks
    3,397
    Thanked
    5,160
    Reviews
    8
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Rachell View Post
    This.
    It makes me sick as to where the profits go.
    Yeah that's the thing with me too. The reality of the industry is sickening.

  9. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to babyla For This Useful Post:

    MissMuppet  (20-11-2012),SoThisIsLove  (19-11-2012)

  10. #37
    Join Date
    Mar 2011
    Posts
    777
    Thanks
    21
    Thanked
    181
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts

    Default Does your DH/DP look at porn?

    We only watch it together. He used to watch it when he was single.

    I don't mind if he was watching it but I don't ask him and doubt he does.

  11. #38
    Join Date
    Dec 2005
    Posts
    17,747
    Thanks
    5,085
    Thanked
    8,691
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    Awards:
    Past Moderator - Thank you
    100 Posts in a week
    Quote Originally Posted by babyla View Post
    Yeah that's the thing with me too. The reality of the industry is sickening.
    Agreed. What was once a turn on for us became a massive, massive turn off. The industry just goes against all our ethics and ideals, so it's a no go.

  12. The Following User Says Thank You to misskittyfantastico For This Useful Post:

    babyla  (20-11-2012)

  13. #39
    Join Date
    Jan 2006
    Location
    Qld
    Posts
    26,930
    Thanks
    2,736
    Thanked
    6,743
    Reviews
    2
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 postsDiamond Star - 20,000 posts
    I think he does. He used to. I have stopped checking, but I assume he still does.

    Ethically, I am not okay with it... but I can appreciate that different people have different ethics and that I can't force him to agree with me (as much as I wish I could... lol).

    I can get funny about it too... it sometimes makes me feel incredibly self-conscious, and I also sometimes feel like he's been wrongly educated on women. I think he's been taught, by porn (probably viewing since early teens), that women like certain things, that certain things are sexy, etc etc... when majority of women have no inclination to do those things or find them at all appealing. I sometimes get angry with him, reminding him that I am not a porn star and that I do not like getting randomly groped throughout the day... it makes me feel like an object, and that I am not that, no matter what porn has taught him to the contrary.

    I just dislike porn. I'm not against teenage boys having a bit of a perve or whatever, but the ease of access to hardcore pornography and the way it's getting more and more extreme to cater to desensitized viewers who need MORE to feel something, is just gross and wrong.

  14. #40
    Join Date
    May 2011
    Posts
    7,878
    Thanks
    3,397
    Thanked
    5,160
    Reviews
    8
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by SassyMummy View Post
    I think he's been taught, by porn (probably viewing since early teens), that women like certain things, that certain things are sexy, etc etc... when majority of women have no inclination to do those things or find them at all appealing. I sometimes get angry with him, reminding him that I am not a porn star and that I do not like getting randomly groped throughout the day... it makes me feel like an object, and that I am not that, no matter what porn has taught him to the contrary.
    This is so true. My DH had a few younger friends who watched a lot of it and the things they thought 'chicks would dig' was just so odd. Their ideas around $ex and women can become so warped, it affects their ability to have real relationships.

  15. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to babyla For This Useful Post:

    Annabella  (19-11-2012),misskittyfantastico  (19-11-2012),SoThisIsLove  (19-11-2012)


 

Similar Threads

  1. Partner, PS3, porn and me
    By bohogirls in forum Issues with Family Members
    Replies: 50
    Last Post: 14-04-2012, 12:31

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Ro&Co
Share magical moments this Christmas with this gorgeous gingerbread house. Exclusively available in Brisbane, with FREE delivery in Brisbane Metro areas. Each Christmas Centrepiece is unique and made to order, from $240.
sales & new stuffsee all
Wendys Music School Melbourne
Wondering about Music Lessons? FREE 30 minute ASSESSMENT. Find out if your child is ready! Piano from age 3 years & Guitar, Singing, Drums, Violin from age 5. Lessons available for all ages. 35+ years experience. Structured program.
Use referral 'bubhub' when booking
featured supporter
Shapland Swim Schools
Semi private learn to swim classes for a maximum of 3 children in specialized heated teaching pools. Our swim schools are located across Brisbane, Ipswich and the Sunshine Coast, ensuring there's a school near you.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!