I don't know what to do anymore. About two months ago our DS seemed to have a major personality change. He used to be so happy, always very spirited but manageable. Now he just seems so sad and exhausted a lot of the time and his behaviour is now almost out of control. He kicks, hits, blows raspberries, yells. He went into a garden bed at the local shopping centre and started throwing pebbles everywhere for no reason! I was so embarrassed and left in tears. He knows better than that! We always try to be consistent in our discipline. Timeouts for all of the above. Toys are taken away for the rest of the day if he throws them. We give him choices where we can so he feels he has some control. My hubby and I make lots of effort to spend positive time with him. I understand bad behaviour in 3 year olds can stem from needing to push boundaries, and frustration, or attention seeking, but all this seems way beyond that.
We had a new bubby 6 weeks ago but these problems started before his arrival and my DS doesn't seem to care about the bubby, in fact he usually kisses and hugs him and loves helping with him. So I really don't think that's the problem.
He also seems bored a lot of the time but I'm doing the best I can with formal activities every day or so (swimming, Gymboree) which he enjoys but the horrible behaviour begins again straight away.
He's so difficult to live with. I say "would you like" (about to offer morning tea) and he yells No before I can even finish the sentence!
He asked for help with a toy and I was trying to show him he had it upside down and he hit me!
It's really upsetting to me. It feels like our relationship is getting damaged beyond repair and to be honest it's getting to the stage where I can't stand to be with him.
Does anyone have any advice or similar experience? I'm really upset.