+ Reply to Thread
Page 7 of 7 FirstFirst ... 567
Results 61 to 67 of 67
  1. #61
    Join Date
    Nov 2012
    Posts
    6
    Thanks
    12
    Thanked
    1
    Reviews
    0
    I think that's what's going on since they are both saying that ones 6 the other is 8 and our girls are 2 and 3, I would have thought they would know better but I guess not we are seeking professional help on how to talk to them all about this it's been really tough but at least we are starting to get some answers

  2. #62
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Posts
    12,714
    Thanks
    9,561
    Thanked
    12,691
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 9/1/15Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 7/11/14Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 3/10/14100 Posts in a week

    Default Step son touching my daughter :(

    All kids were playing? He has 3 and you have 1? I hope your dp wasn't trying to lay blame on your 3 year old daughter...

    Actual touching of the privates, if it did occur is inappropriate. I'd still be asking a professional to chat with your ss to get the truth. Where did they learn the game? Sorry perhaps I'm a pessimist but I wouldn't dismiss (yet) that this 'game' came from a dark place.

    How is your daughter go at the doctors ?

  3. #63
    Join Date
    Dec 2011
    Posts
    6,718
    Thanks
    3,789
    Thanked
    3,838
    Reviews
    17
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 14/11/14100 Posts in a week

    Default Re: Step son touching my daughter :(

    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    All kids were playing? He has 3 and you have 1? I hope your dp wasn't trying to lay blame on your 3 year old daughter...

    Actual touching of the privates, if it did occur is inappropriate. I'd still be asking a professional to chat with your ss to get the truth. Where did they learn the game? Sorry perhaps I'm a pessimist but I wouldn't dismiss (yet) that this 'game' came from a dark place.

    How is your daughter go at the doctors ?
    I agree the game probably came from a dark place. But I'm thinking the other kids who showed op's ss may have experienced darkness. IyKWIM. Either way I would be letting the school know and who these kids are. Teachers are mandatory reporters.

    Sent from my magical black talky thingy using BubHub

  4. #64
    Join Date
    Jan 2006
    Location
    Qld
    Posts
    26,930
    Thanks
    2,736
    Thanked
    6,743
    Reviews
    2
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 postsDiamond Star - 20,000 posts
    I think it might be a good idea that all children are reminded about appropriate and inappropriate touching, even in game-form, etc.

    I know that when I was quite a small child, I played some games that would look pretty damn creepy if an adult had caught us. I never actually touched another kid or had another touch me... but my dolls were always getting up to crazy sexual crap. Just stuff other kids had said at school, or something I'd somehow seen accidentally on TV or whatever. Kids can absorb so much more than we know... I remember DD being 3 and saying something about sex. When I asked her if she knew what that meant, she said, "taking off your clothes and dancing for boys." WTF?! SHe didn't go to daycare, she only watched kids shows... so I have no idea where on earth she got that from... but she did, somehow.

    I wouldn't be freaking out that one of the boys is behaving in a sinister way just yet, but definitely organise counselling for all the children and make sure to remind all of them about bodily privacy and such. It's a good conversation to have regularly anyway, even if this hadn't happened.

    I'm really really sorry you're going through this.

    I hope counselling helps you find some answers and truths.

  5. The Following User Says Thank You to SassyMummy For This Useful Post:

    LotusUndercover  (21-11-2012)

  6. #65
    Join Date
    Jun 2006
    Location
    sunshine coast
    Posts
    1,528
    Thanks
    6
    Thanked
    47
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Personally if i was you i'd be calling DoCS about it, The boy sounds like he has either seen it or been a victim of it himself.

    I know if i ever found out my DD's step brother had done that to her i'd go absolutely nuts, The first thing i'd be doing is calling DoCS and then taking her to a doctor to discuss it with them and quite possibly to the police. Mainly, because a child doing that to another child is a sign of sexual abuse in the child doing the touching.

    Also, i'd be getting my partner to sit down with the boy (and me) and talking to him in a way that was serious but also safe for him to talk and ask him why he did it.

  7. #66
    OJandMe's Avatar
    OJandMe is offline I am the strength my children will have.
    Join Date
    Jul 2005
    Posts
    10,123
    Thanks
    910
    Thanked
    1,165
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    I don't understand why at 6 and 8 they haven't been told by their father about not touching anyone elses body parts....

    My sons are 7, 5, 4 and I know that the 7 yr olds are absolutely aware that they don't touch other peoples bodies. The 4yr old I'd understand, and even the 5yr old to an extent if the older child who instigated the 'game' was someone they looked up to... but my 7yr olds absolutely know better than that.

  8. #67
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Posts
    808
    Thanks
    3
    Thanked
    112
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts

    Default Step son touching my daughter :(

    I read all the posts and I think it's weird that in the beginning one brother was involved. Then dad asked both brothers what was going on which they replied nothing had happened and now all 4 kids are involved. In my opinion I wouldnt be dropping this situation at all because why didn't your daughter mention the other kids when she could tell you when where and how. Why have the boys story consistantly changed? Even if they were playing a game they knew it was wrong because they hid it when dad asked......


 

Similar Threads

  1. Issues with step daughter !
    By Mummato4 in forum Step-parents / Blended families
    Replies: 9
    Last Post: 26-05-2012, 19:12
  2. Letter to my step daughter
    By insomniac in forum Step-parents / Blended families
    Replies: 10
    Last Post: 15-05-2012, 14:31
  3. Q bout my step daughter at my wits end
    By Bgirl in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 13
    Last Post: 07-02-2012, 11:21

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Boody Organic Bamboo Baby Wear
Softer than your bub's bum Boody Organic Bamboo Baby Wear
Australia's favourite eco brand has delivered a gorgeous baby collection. Made from organic bamboo, Boody's extraordinarily soft and stretchy, skin-friendly tops, bottoms, onesies, bibs and wraps don't 'cost the earth'. Get 20% OFF! Code BUBHUB16.
sales & new stuffsee all
CarmelsBeautySecrets
Growing your own natural nails is easy. Years ago, I devised a simple and very effective technique which really helps boosts the nails' growth in as little as three days! And most importantly keeps them that way.
featured supporter
Swim Australia
Swim Australia are the leading learn-to-swim experts, and national swim school authority. With over 600 Registered Swim Schools located across the country, through our aquatic education, we aim to build a Safer, Smarter, Stronger nation of swimmers.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!