I do not wish to minimise the seriousness of child sexual abuse in anyway...but, have people factored the kids developmental level in to this at all?
The Ss is 6, not 16, 26, 36 etc
It seems like people are getting carried away with the issue of child sexual abuse when no-one knows that this is what is happening.
If this is just normal childhood curiosity then adopting a stance that is reflected in some of the emotive language here will traumatise both her Dd and her Ss.
As hard as it is you need to find out the truth before you can adequately respond to it...
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I am so sorry that you are going through this
These days it is sad what young children see/hear at school. Any child in primary school with a mobile phone can look up and share all sort of inapproriate stuff
My 7 yr old nephew once mentioned babies being made by two people having sex and that he would never as sex...bla, bla. I was thinking, how and why does he know this at 7!!
When I was 5 or 6 yo, I remember my younger female cousin telling me that she will show me how to make love. She proceeded into taking her PJs off, I was told to do the same and to then lie down on the floor. She then lied on top of me and that was it. She said that is how you make love.
I can tell you now that there was absolutely nothing sexual about it. I have no idea how she picked this up but we both grew up fine so I doubt there was any abuse. I think she may have seen her parents, or heard something??
Anyway, just wanting to give you my experience on what can happen between kids.
I remember telling my mum about it the next day, and she sat me down and had a little talk about love, babies and the like.
I hope you do get to the bottom of your story, that no child has been abused and that you get proper guidance/advise from another party. Sorry that your DP isn't more supportive.
I agree with pp, I can't see a 3 yo making this story up.
I get that you think he is the perfect partner for you,but it doesn't sound like he is the perfect partner to be co-parenting your child with right now.
Sorry,but your child has to come before your relationship and it sounds like the best thing for right now would be to put some distance between you all until this is sorted out because he doesn't seem to be taking it very seriously.
Your Partner is a parent too so he should be able to understand your position and if he's as great as you say he is,he'll be there when you've got to the bottom of this.
If he's not..well,then was he the best choice for you?
I can't imagine any good parent not being able to understand you doing everything in your power to protect your child.
Good luck and I hope this is all sorted out soon.
A child of this age wouldn't just make this stuff up, something has happened here is my feeling and I would be totally going with that instinct like you are op.
So last night I cracked it at dp and left and said until its sorted i don't want to be here he called me this afternoon to come over and when I got here told me that the two boys had said it was all just a game that all 4 kids were involved he has 3 and I have 1 and that the boys said it was a game they were playing girl friends and boyfriends that a kid at school in ss class had told them about it coz this other kid plays the game with another kid in the playground!
That sounds like it could be true, so you need to explain to them all that its not appropriate. You might want to get some kind of expert help on how to approach without shaming them.
How old are the older boys? Wouldn't they be old enough to know better?
I remember when I was at preschool so about 3-4 there being a discussion about how when you grow up the daddy has to lie on top of the mummy and a couple of kids having a go at it
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