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    Default Step son touching my daughter :(

    Hi I'm here undercover so please if any of you piece together who I am please don't say anything thanks. I'm and in a really tough place and i have no idea what to do and really need to get this off my chest today my daughter who's 3 told me her step brother who's 6 has been touching her private parts and told her he wanted to have sex with her, I asked her what he did and by the sounds of it he just touched her which makes me sick and so angry and hurt for my daughter anyway I went straight to my DP and told him about it his first response was that doesn't sound like (let's call him S) s he wouldn't do that then I told him all the details and he said ok well I will have a talk to him when I have him next ( we have s 50/50) which isn't really sitting well with me I'm so angry my heart is racing and I just want to take my dd and leave the only thing stopping me is that I really love my dp he is my perfect guy and is a great step dad, but now I keep thinking that I really hate s and I don't want him here or to be around him and that's not good I had such a good relationship with him up until now I also have a younger daughter who can't talk who I am now worried about if he's done that to my dd, am I overreacting? I have no idea what to do
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    Default Step son touching my daughter :(

    In no way are you overreacting!!! Something needs to be said regardless of age. He may not be aware if what he is saying and just need so be taught that it's not appropriate. Also, it may be happening to him...

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    Default Step son touching my daughter :(

    You are NOT overreacting.

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    huge hugs.

    I cannot imagine how you must be feeling but that protective instinct is such a strong one.

    I would be getting a family counsellor ASAP...i would be making sure the children are not alone for even a moment.

    It is "normal" for kids to be curious...but, it could also be a sign that the little boy is being touched or hurt somewhere else.

    Can you also have your DP speak with his mother?

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    It's perfectly normal for you to be feeling the way you are but to be honest he is only 6 and I would be deeply concerned for his well being. That type of behavior can be an indicator that he himself has been a victim of sexual abuse and I would be looking very closely at who may be the perpetrator.
    You and your partner may need to seek advice from a child protection agency, this is not something to ignore.

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    Default Step son touching my daughter :(

    Not over reacting, it's good that you've listened to your daughter and caught it before anything further happened.

    Make sure SS's mum is told what is going on, just because if he is doing this to your dd then it may be happening other places like school.

    6yo is very young and you have to wonder where he learnt about sex and touching inappropriate...

    Ss needs to be talked to, asked why he said/ did that, whether it be your dp that talks to him, his mum or a councillor.

    Don't hate ss, he needs love and support too. But while he is with you be vigilant to make sure he is never alone with your dds.

    I'm so sorry that you're going through this hugs.

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    Default Step son touching my daughter :(

    My daughters were touched and had pornographic pictures taken by their uncle who is only 5 years older than my oldest, because he was a kid the girls didn't tell me as I had spoken to them about adults doing the wrong thing not other kids. Do not ignore this as pp have said I would be questioning whether he has learnt the behaviour else where. Do you have a good relationship with S's mum?

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    Default Step son touching my daughter :(

    Quote Originally Posted by Hootenanny View Post
    It's perfectly normal for you to be feeling the way you are but to be honest he is only 6 and I would be deeply concerned for his well being. That type of behavior can be an indicator that he himself has been a victim of sexual abuse and I would be looking very closely at who may be the perpetrator.
    You and your partner may need to seek advice from a child protection agency, this is not something to ignore.
    This ^^^

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    You are so not overreacting. I would be livid too and would feel the same. I have no idea what advice to offer except that I would want it out in the open and dealt with.

    Massive hugs to you and your girls!

    xx

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    Default Step son touching my daughter :(

    Quote Originally Posted by jeybelle View Post
    Not over reacting, it's good that you've listened to your daughter and caught it before anything further happened.

    Make sure SS's mum is told what is going on, just because if he is doing this to your dd then it may be happening other places like school.

    6yo is very young and you have to wonder where he learnt about sex and touching inappropriate...

    Ss needs to be talked to, asked why he said/ did that, whether it be your dp that talks to him, his mum or a councillor.

    Don't hate ss, he needs love and support too. But while he is with you be vigilant to make sure he is never alone with your dds.

    I'm so sorry that you're going through this hugs.
    This!


 

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