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    Default Argh mil driving me nuts

    Surprise surprise I don't agree with my mil parenting techniques. What's really got on my goat yesterday was my bil ( who's 12) has a bday in 2 weeks. A new video game came out the other day and rather make him wait ( so he gets something special on his bday) he got it on the day of release.
    I'm annoyed as a) he spends far to much time on video games anyway ( he is lazy never goes outside)
    B) if he has done something to deserve it yeah sure let him have it early but he didn't he just gave it to him

    Argh sorry had to vdnt

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    That sort of thing is what makes teens such spoilt ungrateful brats they are today. Always getting stuff handed to them, them not having to lift a finger to earn anything in their life! Drives me mental!

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    You know, I agree with you that it's probably a stupid move on her part...

    But I really hope you don't say anything. I couldn't imagine someone much younger than me with no real parenting experience telling me how to raise my child.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SassyMummy View Post
    You know, I agree with you that it's probably a stupid move on her part...

    But I really hope you don't say anything. I couldn't imagine someone much younger than me with no real parenting experience telling me how to raise my child.
    I did make a comment but it was from kids perspective - gee you're lucky in my day I had to wait until my bday. Then i followed up by asking what he wanted for his bday.
    Passive aggressive I know

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    Quote Originally Posted by SassyMummy View Post
    You know, I agree with you that it's probably a stupid move on her part...

    But I really hope you don't say anything. I couldn't imagine someone much younger than me with no real parenting experience telling me how to raise my child.
    Here here!

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    'I agree that if she gave to him for reason, than it probably wasn't the wisest thing to do.

    Quote Originally Posted by SassyMummy View Post
    You know, I agree with you that it's probably a stupid move on her part...

    But I really hope you don't say anything. I couldn't imagine someone much younger than me with no real parenting experience telling me how to raise my child.
    I agree except I don't care how much experience they have got. I know my kids better than anyone else. It would leave me a bit peeved at that person.

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    What frustrates me is that he's not learning reward recognition, just got handed a $100 game. Would be different if he did well in an exam, or had helped out around the house etc gifts for the sake of gifts should be reserved for bdays or Xmas in my opinion.
    Theses games are MA15+ too and he's been playing them for years

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    Definitely didn't say anything "advice" wise, only comment was made to bil about how lucky he is

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    That's just the thing though... in your opinion this is wrong, but not everyone is going to agree with your opinion on parenting.

    I don't know what it's like to parent a 12-year-old boy, so while I can sit here and tell you how I'd do it... well, I remember not having a child and telling everyone how I was going to parent when I did... and didn't that change when the realities set in!

    I think the way you made your point was good though... but I suppose you're also not privvy to all that she's feeling, all that's going on in that house, etc. I know it's unlikely it's the same, but I mean... I sometimes spoil my child because I'm trying to make up for hte fact that her father is scum. Anyone on the outside just sees me spoiling her... but it's me feeling guilty, watching her cry at nights and wonder why he abandoned her... etc etc. Not all decisions parents make are made with rational thought... sometimes emotions take us to a place we wouldn't be if we were considering our options a bit more rationally. She might be giving them to him for any reason at all... not just because she's being a stupid parent.

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    Default Re: Argh mil driving me nuts

    It's not something I would do with my kids but I try not to worry myself with other people's parenting decisions. It's not really worth getting worked up by, just comfort yourself with the fact that you will raise your kids differently

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