He felt it was in his son's best interest to have his primary carer happy and living were she wanted. He wanted her to be allowed to move on with her life as he had with his.
It was a sacrifice he made which may seem bizarre to others but made perfect sense to him and what was in the best interests of his child.
Just another POV.
If you have evidence to prove she is working they have to investigate. We just got my husband's cs changed as we were having an ad hoc arrangement with our time (still same amount just different times) as it fit better with his work roster. His ex was saying that we didn't have any care when we have 20%. I had kept records of every visit we had since we deviated from orders and CSA went in our favour on it as we could prove it and she couldn't disprove it. I guess proving she's working is a bit harder than that but if she says where she works and you document conversations about it they would consider that especially if its over a long period of time.
Document everything it comes in handy sometimes.
Nothing to say on the distance thing we live 2hrs away so we won't get more than what we have now.
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Bunny Lover (17-11-2012)
I guess at the end of the day, we won't move. She moved 3 hours away from where they were both living (2 min walk from one another) .. Yes she had to move on with her life.. So we then followed her and didn't get much of a choice about where we were placed with work.. For DH, it was that or stay where he was and be unemployed for a significant amount of time. We moved to where we are now and bought a house and she moved AGAIN. So no, I can understand DHs reluctance especially as where we work is not very secure at the moment and our jobs are safe, for now. If he were to transfer etc he would more than likely be made redundant. We have a child together who is settled where he is in terms of who cares for him during work hours and moving closer to her would make me further from my family support who are already an hour away in the other direction.
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