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    So move closer, sell his house.. when she is renting. He is established at a place of employment.. She does work, openly admits it but hasn't lodged a tax return and hasnt declared it to CSA. I would think that's a bit of evasion. CSA have been told but they can't do anything until a tax return is lodged, or so they claim.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bunny Lover View Post
    To this day, there is still a terrible prejudice against fathers.
    Mums are generally the ones who make far more sacrifices for children, particularly in the early years staying home to raise them.

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    Does anyone see his point of view? At all?

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlackEyedPea View Post
    Mums are generally the ones who make far more sacrifices for children, particularly in the early years staying home to raise them.
    I disagree. My partner makes just as much sacrifice as I do with our child.

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    If it was my child, yes I would sell my house, change my job, it wouldn't worry me to do that. That's how strongly I feel about my kids.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bunny Lover View Post
    I disagree. My partner makes just as much sacrifice as I do with our child.
    In fact, I make sure that we are equally involved and he wouldn't have it any other way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mokeybear View Post
    If it was my child, yes I would sell my house, change my job, it wouldn't worry me to do that. That's how strongly I feel about my kids.
    As would I. So what happens when she moves again? As she is known to do. Does he keep chasing her?

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    I think you have a tricky situation that is outside of the 'norm'.

    My opinion though is CS should never factor into any issues surrounding custody, but I can see the issue you raise.

    Unfortunately split families are never an easy road, especially for the kiddies. It's always going to be rough on someone when two people are raising kids in separate homes. I know this from experience!

    I'm sure your DH is an awesome parent and as time goes by the little guy will probably see this and want more time with him

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bunny Lover View Post
    Not at all. Dad has always wanted son to live with him but due to bio mums choosing to move he wasn't able to live with both.. As the child wanted..
    And why is it automatically assumed that its in the child's best interest to live with his mother? Should I add that the son isn't coping at all there and has been in and out of counseling?
    It isn't about the fact the mother should automatically get custody. It's that she has had him 8 years. She is the primary carer and research shows moving kids from that primary carer can be damaging.

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    I can see where he is coming from (whether or not I agree).

    If it were me I would take to court. Have a family report done, see what the recommendations are. The family court is not as mother friendly as you obviously believe.

    If it were me I would leave the child in the school they are in if the child is happy there. I would look at moving to a school middle distance for high school as the child would be moving schools anyway.

    Continue the counselling and request more contact eg every 2nd weekend and a night in the middle of the week (on the week that the child is not with him). Build this up slowly under the guidance of a professional to ensure the child is coping.


 
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