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    Can I just make it clear that he isn't withholding child support at all? He has always paid it.. But just questioning how fair it is to pay extra due to lack of access when bio mum has set herself up nicely so the access is very difficult? He would never begrudge supporting his child. He just feels that things could be more amicable .. Which is understandable, given that both parents are supposed to have equal rights. To this day, there is still a terrible prejudice against fathers.

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    Yes sounds like it Brussels sprout. I think GENERALLY speaking, kids are better off with with mums. Of course there are plenty of exceptions to this but I'm just talking generally.

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    And can I ask why you think kids are better off with their mums?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bunny Lover View Post
    Not at all. Dad has always wanted son to live with him but due to bio mums choosing to move he wasn't able to live with both.. As the child wanted..
    And why is it automatically assumed that its in the child's best interest to live with his mother? Should I add that the son isn't coping at all there and has been in and out of counseling?
    You hadn't mentioned these other issues previously. So assumptions were made.
    He would have to continue counselling if he was to leave the place he has lived his entire life.
    It's not about him being better off with his mother. I'd be concerned that leaving all he has ever known would cause him distress.

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    And of course.. All dads are dead beats who refuse to pay for their children and have no interest whatsoever in their well being. Yeah. Okay.

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    And he shouldn't have the opportunity to live with his father? So that can become just as familiar?

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    Easy, I'm a mum, we all are, ask yourself who you think should be raising the kids if a separation were to occur, most of us would truly believe ourselves. I don't think all dads are deadbeat at all, but asking the question about reducing the child support did also lead me to make an assumption.

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    Dad could also move closer, in fact, that's what I would do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bunny Lover View Post
    Can I just make it clear that he isn't withholding child support at all? He has always paid it.. But just questioning how fair it is to pay extra due to lack of access when bio mum has set herself up nicely so the access is very difficult? He would never begrudge supporting his child. He just feels that things could be more amicable .. Which is understandable, given that both parents are supposed to have equal rights. To this day, there is still a terrible prejudice against fathers.
    You are questioning if he should have to pay and trying to justify why he should not. To not would be withholding.

    Quote Originally Posted by Bunny Lover View Post
    And he shouldn't have the opportunity to live with his father? So that can become just as familiar?
    Absolutely, if you truly believe it's in his best interests to live with his dad, then take it to court.

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    Quote Originally Posted by faroutbrusselsprout View Post
    The son has lived with the mother for EIGHT years and had LIMITED contact with the Father??
    How incredibly selfish of the Father to think a young child should suddenly change his entire life because he wants the son to live with him.
    As he ANY idea of the emotional upheaval that would cause a child?
    This limited contact was not by the fathers choice? And I wouldn't say it's limited, it's about 35% once birthdays fathers day etc are factored in.


 

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