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    No no.. Not refusing to pay.. Just think its unfair that due to circumstances that he chose, he has less access.

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    Oops.. I meant circumstances that she chose.

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    What judge is going to give half half care when those circumstances are in place? and because the precedent is there, bio mum will claim that it's too much of an adjustment to go to half half. She's not at all amenable to him living with bio dad full time and her having weekends either. I think that should be fair. Maybe bio dad should approach the topic about 12 months before high school re a school closer to us and just enrol him if she disagrees? Seems okay for her to do?

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    I think the Dad is using the idea of withholding child support as a weapon against the mother as he's upset he is not getting his way.
    I would be telling my 8yr old to stay with me if his bio Dad wanted him to live with him because I believe it's in his best interests?
    What does he expect the mother to do? Just hand over her son and disrupt his life?
    I think the Dad should put his son first and try and really see what is in his sons best interests.
    Child support should be paid and if he doesn't he's being spiteful and ridiculous.

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    Fair to whom, weekdays with him weekends with her? Are you accusing her of wanting her son for the extra $$$?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bunny Lover View Post
    Okay.. Scenario:
    Bio dad wants DS to live with him. Custodial parent is bio mum. Mum constantly drills into the child that he should stay with her, makes plans for high school with no consultation with bio dad and sets it up so bio dad really has no say.
    Bio dad is fed up with having no input and wants DS to live with him as DS has lived with bio mum for 8 years and contact has been very limited due to the choices bio mum made with regard to where she lived. Bio dad wants to throw his hands in the air and just wants a bit of fairness. DS is slowly being alienated from bio dad.
    There are court orders in place with usual conditions re schooling and access fur bio dad every second weekend, one alternate weeknight and half of school hols.
    The son has lived with the mother for EIGHT years and had LIMITED contact with the Father??
    How incredibly selfish of the Father to think a young child should suddenly change his entire life because he wants the son to live with him.
    As he ANY idea of the emotional upheaval that would cause a child?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mokeybear View Post
    Fair to whom, weekdays with him weekends with her? Are you accusing her of wanting her son for the extra $$$?
    I think the Dad wants the son to live with him now as he begrudges paying child support?
    That's the impression I got from the story.

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    Not at all. Dad has always wanted son to live with him but due to bio mums choosing to move he wasn't able to live with both.. As the child wanted..
    And why is it automatically assumed that its in the child's best interest to live with his mother? Should I add that the son isn't coping at all there and has been in and out of counseling?

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    And bio mum calls and says she can't cope with his behaviour.. So bio dad says to let DS come and stay with bio dad for a few weeks to see how it goes then bio mum refuses? Why call and vent about it if she's not willing to do anything? All bio dad can do is talk to the son and try and sort it out.. How is he supposed to do that?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bunny Lover View Post
    No no.. Not refusing to pay.. Just think its unfair that due to circumstances that he chose, he has less access.
    Ugh, that's gross. Financial contribution shouldn't be withheld over access. You don't 'pay' to be a parent. You pay because you are a parent.

    Go to court, don't do something so bitter and potentially damaging to the childs well being.


 

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