I'm grateful for the sacrifices he made.
Sure, he's been with the same woman for almost 15 years now and works part time.I'm curious does your father get to have happiness, relationships & job opportunities now?
I haven't depended on him for my well being since I was 16. He ensured I was cared for until I was capable of caring for myself, that's his job as a dad.
Good, that was the advice I gave the OP.What would you suggest my husband does, leave me & his other children to follow his other child around everytime her mother moves her? 6 hours this way, 2 hours that way, 3 hours that way, do you seriously 100% believe that is the best option???
In our circumstances it is not. We stay put & now due to family law court orders the mother stays put. We spent thousands & even when not a lot went in my DH favour we won on that, however we are restricted to every 2nd weekend & half of every holidays, the rest of the time she's in her mothers care & rarely cared for properly.
~yawn~This is an area for STEP PARENTS & BLENDED FAMILIES, advice from non single mothers is NOT appreciated in the single parents section as non single mothers don't understand the delicate nature of being a single parent, well guess what if you ARE NOT a part of a blended family you do not UNDERSTAND the delicate nature of our circumstances & seriously you would want to hope that in the event your ex dares be selfish enough to move on, remarry or have more children that they move on with a non selfish woman who loves your child & wants your child to remain a part of her estranged fathers family!!!
I'm very much part of a blended family and I do 'get' how difficult it is to be a step-parent, that's why I've said I could never be one, it'd never be fair to my partner or his child/ren.
My husband will never be an estranged father, his children are the centre of his universe. I wouldn't expect any new partner to love my children, just to treat them with kindness, respect and to acknowledge that these children are his number one priority.
You seem to have latched on to me saying I'm selfish. To clarify, I could never be a step-parent as the only person I'd want my partner to love more than me, is those I love more than him. Anything else would create an unhappy situation for all involved. I don't have the capacity to be a step-parent. Much props to those who do.