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    I think people who were spoilt as a child aren't even going to be aware of it. To kids, life is what it is, perception is reality.

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    Default "spin off" were you spoilt as a child

    Come Christmas & birthdays we were spoilt ( well in my eyes looking back actually not as much as my friends) I think my nanna contributed a lot.
    but for the rest of the year we got nothing and I mean nothing

    My kids well they get stuff all the time, I'm a real sucker.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Happy2be3 View Post
    I think people who were spoilt as a child aren't even going to be aware of it. To kids, life is what it is, perception is reality.
    I am more then aware of the fact I was spoilt as a child. Even back then I knew I was spoilt.

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    What annoys me is that my mother says we were spoiled 'middle class children'.... And how hard she had it, and how poor her parents were and how conscious she was of having nothing etc etc. it drives me insane as I think it's unfair of her to say. Like I said earlier we got lots of gifts at Christmas, holidays and private schooling. But we didn't get a cent after leaving home at 18. And we had to suffer through constant fighting (parents), authoritarian career-driven parents who were absent a lot. Isn't being spoilt getting everything you want, never having to earn your way and always wanting more? Because if that's the case we certainly weren't spoilt. My ex was far more 'spoilt' than me, yet his parents didn't have a lot of money. He was just pampered and worshipped by his mother especially, and as an adult his mindset was that he could have what he wanted, when he wanted it.

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    Default "spin off" were you spoilt as a child

    IMy brother and I went without alot while my mum was single we didn't get Any presents birthday or Xmas. Once she got with step dad there was then 6 kids so we got presents but thy always got expensive over the top spoilt and my brother and I got things like towels and clothes which was huge for us cause we were so used to getting nothing. My kids aren't spoilt they get one big present to share and few smaller ones I've set a $500 budget for Xmas inc extended family. Birthdays they get one or 2 presents I know they will like and occasionally of I can afford it treats here and there like colouring books little cars or dolls. Oh and I know I'm not spoilt now or as a child I'm very savvy with $ and very appreciative of gifts and thankful for what I have. My DS 6 understands the value of $ and knows if I tell him I don't have enough$ he will ask can we save for it. He's so beautiful that way.
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    My parents were really hard working and mum worked nights and dad days so we could be looked after during the day and night and so we could live off two wages. We weren't spoilt as mum and dad used their money to pay off their mortgage early so they could start saving for our university education (I have an older brother).

    I used to get the cheap 'rip off' Barbie, we had mainly no name groceries and only got money for canteen lunches if mum was working in there or on our birthdays.

    I saw my parents work hard and be smart with their money so I learnt to do the same but made the most of the university education (that they didn't have) that they gave us (paid for it in full) as I didn't want to have to scrimp and save on everything just to get by.

    So I am in a good financial position where if I really desperately want something I can buy it but I certainly don't think I'm entitled to everything (I have limits on my wants too - I dont buy brands like Oroton or Prada or Guess Handbags etc, I personally see it as a waste of money) as I too would prefer to put money into my mortgage to pay it off early so that I can give my children the best opportunities in life.

    I think spoilt kids generally will grow into spoilt adults (why would you go from having everything you want and go to going without as an adult?) but not necessarily the other way around. There will be some adults who weren't spoilt as kids who would like to parent the same as their parents but there will also be those adults who weren't spoilt who hated that about their childhood and will do a 180 and spoil their kids to give them what they missed out on in their childhood.

    As for spoiling my kids, I personally think kids have far too many 'things' these days and I'd rather spend my money on family holidays so we can spend quality time together and to pay for their university (if this is the path they chose to take) than to try and make them 'happy' by buying them loads of toys and name brand clothes etc. I'll teach them that we could buy them lots of toys here and there throughout the year but wouldnt it be so much better to go on an awesome holiday to Movie World as a family during the summer!?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Happy2be3 View Post
    I think people who were spoilt as a child aren't even going to be aware of it. To kids, life is what it is, perception is reality.
    Does that also mean kids like me on the other end of the scale that had nothing didn't know that either? bc I sure did. As I said, I'm now an easily pleased non materialistic person, so in some ways I really value the life lessons of being dirt poor gave me.

    But at the same time, i want my kids to have a middle ground. What's wrong with that? Since no one else is funding our kids presents bar DH and I, it is our choice how much we spend, no one elses business, and really, I don't consider $300 per child for school aged that much

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    I don't know if people are very good at seeing if they, themselves have grown up to be quite spoilt. Not sure if any if us can really answer honestly.

    i didn't get much growing up, we didn't really go without, mum and dad would get us a bike, a watch, a camera (remember the old hanimex cameras!) or one 'big' thing like that, and Santa would get us things we need like undies, a book. Etc. I got a lot less than most people I knew but Christmas was more about family etc for us so was always fun.

    as an adult I'm very careful with money, and don't want a lot if 'things', but the stuff I do want- I want good quality so it lasts, I'd rather buy good second hand than less good new.

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    Default "spin off" were you spoilt as a child

    Yes. There were very few things my brother & I wanted that we didn't get and those were unrealistic requests (phone line in bedroom at age 12 for example).

    It left me with some unrealistic expectations once I left home! Even now, I still struggle with impulse buying small things & want certain expensive just because I want them. (Eg, I want to upgrade our TV to a bigger smart TV, even though our current one works perfectly.)

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    Default "spin off" were you spoilt as a child

    I would say yes in terms of the sport I did. My parents spent a fortune on swimming training sessions, on swimming costumes, caps, googles and all the other training equipment I needed. In the end I didn't pursue a career in swimming so I felt they wasted all there money over those 10 years.


 

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