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    We were given a lt of Christmas and birthdays. Other than that my parents didn't have a lot of money. I would feel guilty asking for money I needed (like school excursions) and I certainly didnt get brand name clothes.

    Now I'm very generous with gifts but struggle to spend on myself. I'm constantly asking "would I work x number of hours to have this?" or convert everything to amount of tins of formula.

    On the flip side I have a friend from a very wealthy family. She got a new car for her 18th and lives an amazing life. Yet she's very down to earth about money and the least "bratty"person I know with a great work ethic. Her parents did a fantastic job

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    Well, in some respects we were but in other respects we weren't.

    Bein a spoilt brat comes from lack of discipline imo. Not from money.

    We certainly were given nice things growing up, and luxurious holidays, but we also had to work for our pocket money and had zero financial help once we left home. We didn't get help with jobs/career etc or anything else. We always got a lot for Christmas. It was so exciting for us. But my parents fought a lot and I would have been much happier if they'd split even if it meant we had to live in poverty for a while. The constant fighting was very damaging to us. My fondest memories weren't the resort holidays, they were random occasions when parents spent time with us, like dad taking us blackberry picking or camping down the coast.

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    Quote Originally Posted by darla87 View Post
    Now I'm very generous with gifts but struggle to spend on myself. I'm constantly asking "would I work x number of hours to have this?" or convert everything to amount of tins of formula.
    I'm like that. I put off getting a new bra, or a haircut, which i consider semi needs, bc I think that could be such and such for the kids. So I think I over compensate wanting them to not have my childhood.

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    I'm more like your DH. We weren't spoilt as kids but i want to buy my kids everything and honestly do spend way too much on them at times.
    This is me

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    I'm like that. I put off getting a new bra, or a haircut, which i consider semi needs, bc I think that could be such and such for the kids. So I think I over compensate wanting them to not have my childhood.
    Exactly. As I said, I didnt have brand name clothes at school. If you dont, you stand out and get picked on. I would never want this for my son/ future kids. So I absolutely over compensate

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    I was spoilt rotten as a kid and it screwed me up big time in the real world!! Growing up I lived with my grandparents and was the baby of the family. They could have been down to their last dollar and if I wanted something I would throw almighty tantrums until I got it. And I would get it. Every Xmas I would have a stocking bigger then me overflowing with toys, plus another 10+ toys under the tree- and none cheap! Then there were the gifts from family members. Birthdays were much the same.

    Looking back now I would love to give the child me a massive kick up the ***! I was a spoilt little brat. They did everything for me, i had everything handed to me on a silver platter. When I moved out of home... Well that was an eye opener!

    Now I have my own children (3 daughters!) I have vowed never ever to let them turn out like me. They have their moments but for the most part do not expect anything. Xmas they generally get a big present to share, then a couple of smaller gifts each, nothing OTT. If family members ask what the girls the girls want i just say simple things like colouring books. Or reading books. They aren't overly fussed- our 5 year old comes out and looks at the presents, then carries on with whatever she is doing. It isn't until we actually tell her to open then that she really gets excited lol. For our family, it's not about the material things. It's about spending time with family (life in general not
    Just Xmas).

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    Default "spin off" were you spoilt as a child

    I wouldn't say we were spoiled, but we certainly didn't go without and got plenty of christmas presents.

    I'm the sort of person who feels guilty when I receive gifts. I enjoy it more when I see someone else being spoiled. If someone is generous I feel so grateful that I feel bad, if that makes sense!

    My siblings aren't like me. As I said in the other thread, my brother threw a tantrum at the age of 19 because he wasn't happy with his Christmas gifts. I felt dreadful for my mum as she had gone to a lot of trouble and actually changed what she had bought him two days before Christmas to get something better, only for him to make her take it back. We were brought up the same way, he's just a selfish sh!t.

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    Default "spin off" were you spoilt as a child

    When I was younger, I got everything I wanted but usually had to work for it, like I wanted a guinea pig when I was about 10 so I had to feed the dogs every day before dad got home from work for a whole month, then I was allowed to get one. Or I'd have to wash and vacuum mum and dads cars which would take 3-4 hours for something worth $20 haha.
    I'd also get tones of birthday and Christmas presents, but I think I was very appreciative of all of it.
    I worked as soon as I turned 15 and my parents made me save half of every pay as they made it clear that they wouldn't be buying me a car or giving me money towards one.
    I understood the value of a dollar and my now husband and I were able to buy a house when I was 19, so I think my parents spoiling me but making me value it has turned me into a pretty well rounded adult :-)

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    Default "spin off" were you spoilt as a child

    I wasn't spoilt - my parents didn't have a lot of money. But we loves Christmas and got to see all our cousins and play with the few things we did get. I have am a good saver, am careful with debt, and am satisfied with little.

    DH was spoilt and he and his siblings (moreso his siblings) feel very entitled to have things they haven't worked for (just put it all on the credit card! lots of debt etc). They don't know how to save, and have no idea about living expenses in the real world. DH says we will not be doing the same with our kids, he feels being given too much was a huge disadvantage in the long run.

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    We used to only get a mango for Christmas and think it was the best thing ever! I'm pretty choosy about presents that I buy and will always buy the minimum but top quality and only things that I think will be really valued. I can't stand clutter and the wastefulness of "stuff". I don't think that I missed out as a child but our children will certainly have more because our financial position is better than our parents and we live a different lifestyle

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