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    Default Labour/birth alone - anyone done it?

    There is a very real possibility that I will be forced to go through labour/birth alone and the prospect is really scary.

    Has anyone been through this on their own? Either by choice or circumstance, that could give me some advice or reassurance. I know I'll have a midwife there, but that's not really the same as someone who cares for you IYKWIM.

    My Mum, apart from not being someone that could cope with the stress, will be here looking after DS1 anyway. My sister offered to be my support person, but will be 8mths pregnant herself, and also lives an hour away! My closest friends live interstate.

    I've considered a doula, but heard they are expensive which I probably can't afford now that I'm on my own?? Besides they still don't 'know' me...

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    Not quite on my own but my ex didn't show up for the birth of my second child until about 10 mins before ds arrived. I was induced and it was a really quick 3 hour labour. I didn't mind to be honest I was in my own zone and barely aware of anyone else around anyway. I found it kind of peaceful at times.

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    Although I had my husband at one of my births. I also had a student midwife who was a qualified doula. She was outstanding and just so supportive.
    Would you be comfortable having a student/trainee doula. They would start following your journey immediately.

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    Default Labour/birth alone - anyone done it?

    I laboured and delivered without my ex partner. He had taken himself off on an impromptu camping trip 3 hrs away in the bush without telling me.
    I had one close work colleague drive me to the hospital in the wee small hours of the morning and she stayed until after the baby was born. I also had a friend ring me to see what I was up to, who then came to the hospital and stayed until after the baby was born. To be honest with you, while it was nice having them there, they didn't really factor all that heavily into my consciousness. I was pretty far inside myself mentally. I think a doula would be a nice thing to have, as she can advocate for you, tell your midwives and nurses what you would like and need, and nothing you do will shock her. It won't matter when the time comes that's she's not your BFF, she'll be a good support to you when all you need is a hand to hold

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    Default Labour/birth alone - anyone done it?

    I have decided that ex won't be at the birth of this baby... And will be at home labouring at home. I will be watching to see what people say..

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    I was going to suggest a student doula too.

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    Thanks - it's a good point that I may actually like the quiet time to myself!

    Would it be weird having a 19yr old as my 'support' person, when I'm 35??! I'd be scared I could give her a mouthful when she tries to sooth me with 'I know it hurts but...' Lol

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    Students are all ages! Mine was older than me. It's worth investigating. Some 19 yr olds will be brilliant. Maybe met a few and see if you can get a feel for them.

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    I spent most of my labor on my own, dh was asleep for most of ds1 birth and the busy with kids for other births. I prefer to be left alone and not to be touched. I had a student midwife with my third and she was awesome!! I would highly recommend that option.

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    Default Labour/birth alone - anyone done it?

    Quote Originally Posted by Pesca77 View Post
    Thanks - it's a good point that I may actually like the quiet time to myself!

    Would it be weird having a 19yr old as my 'support' person, when I'm 35??! I'd be scared I could give her a mouthful when she tries to sooth me with 'I know it hurts but...' Lol
    My student is mature aged and is an RN, but having to still do the 3 years for midwifery. She's been very helpful, and a useful go to person when I have random questions. I've had friends say that they still keep in contact with their student and often use them to babysit. You do form a very close and trusting relationship with them, it would something seriously worth considering.


 

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