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    My husband has been offered a new job with the same company he currently works for. This new position is a major promotion. It also means we would have to relocate our family 4 hours north. We have 3 children (5, 2 and 3 months). The 5 year old has just started pre-prep (kindy) at one of the schools here after being in daycare. She loves it and we have noticed a massive change (positive) in her behaviour and confidence.

    We also have my husbands 15 year old sister living with us. She has gone from failing school (on the rare occasion she went) last year (she lived with her mum), to getting A's and B's and even receiving an academic award this year. The school she goes to is notorious for violence, drugs etc so for her to stay on teach is huge.

    My grandad also lives here (as does my mum). He is very close to the girls and misses them terribly if he doesn't see them for a week or two. And that's only him living half an hour away.

    We are in financial crisis. After our rent and groceries are paid (no other bills or money spent), we have between $12 and $100 left to live off for a fortnight, to pay our other bills etc. I get centrelink (tax benefit a and b) but it pretty much all goes on school fees and bills. This new job, and the resulting move, would mean we would be financially stable.

    My worry is... the kids. Especially my 5 year old. Would you take the job and know you will no longer have to worry about bills. Or would you stay so you don't disrupt the kids?

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    i would move.

    your 5 year old will adapt and will be easier to move her at a younger age than to proceed as is on almost nothing.

    your other family members will cope. get them set up on Skype. your SIL knows how to succeed now.

    you need to put your kids first and have them in a stable living environment.

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    My mum and dad moved us from Brisbane to Townsville when I was 8 (my brothers were 9 & 10) and then from Townsville to Newcastle when I was 14 (brothers, 15 & 16).
    Every day I am glad we did because it gave us so many more experiences and things we wouldn't have had before. And I think it made us closer as a family.

    I would say do it.

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    Default Wwyd??

    Quote Originally Posted by babycart View Post
    i would move.

    your 5 year old will adapt and will be easier to move her at a younger age than to proceed as is on almost nothing.

    your other family members will cope. get them set up on Skype. your SIL knows how to succeed now.

    you need to put your kids first and have them in a stable living environment.
    This. I had to move my DD to a new school and I was amazed at how well she adapted.
    They are often tougher than we give them credit for. Sounds like a godsend for your family

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    I would stay on until the end of the school year, and then I would move.

    Your DD5 will be starting Prep in the new year anyway, so if you are going to move, that would be the perfect time, particularly if this is a long term or permanent move.

    I'm sure if your SIL is doing so well in a dodgy school then she will flourish if you can find her a great high school. Have you thought about checking into some private schools and seeing if you can get a bursary of some kind due to her troubled history and what she has overcome and the fact that she is no longer with her parents? Maybe worth a shot.

    We have moved a lot over the past 7 years, DD1 is in year 2 and this is her 3rd school. Kids are very adaptable.

    My family is torn, my Dad wishes I lived down the street, but mum loves that we live in another town/sometimes state, so when they get to visit, it is an exciting and special time, rather then an everyday thing.

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    I'd move.

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    I would move, kids are very resilient. I think it's more important to be financially stable.

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    How secure will the job be ? Will it be long term ? If so I'd take the job and have financial security.

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    Default Wwyd??

    Our 5 year old has been moved around all her life, I just worry about how much she can take. And we wouldn't be moving until school finished anyway. She has only been at the school since the start of this term. The 15 year old is very adaptable- she makes friends very easily.

    Thanks for the advice ladies. Lets see what DH says tonight.

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    I'd move.

    The stress with your finances will be relieved by moving.

    Im sure your 5 year old will be fine. And it sounds like getting the 15 yr old out of that school could only be a good thing.


 

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