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    Default Unexpected pregnancies when family was already complete...

    So, as it says I am 20 weeks with number 3 who is the result of contraception failure. DH had the referral on the fridge for the snip and I could just see the light at the end of the tunnel when I git a BFP. Anyway, I have concerns about how I'll feel when bub gets here. Will I feel like they're intruding on what I considered perfect for our family? Will I resent the financial impact it will make? I cried for 3 months and am just now kind of looking forward to the whole thing but feel nothing like I did with very planned DD and DS. Has anyone else been in this position?

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    Hi, My last child (number 8) was very much unplanned and I also cried for quite some time about it. We have all adjusted and he is very much loved and accepted. Im sure once you settle in with your bub all will be fine

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    Yes, I was with my last bub. We had just come back from looking at uni's for dd1 and the next day I got a bfp. Now I couldn't imagine my life with out him. He brings us such joy.
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    I'm in this position right now (27 weeks with my unplanned 3rd). I am finding i am warming to the idea more as the pregnancy goes on but i'm still quite scared and unsure.

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    Thanks all. I am really anxious about what Wil happen after. My kids are really full on and I just have no idea how a new baby will fit in. That and money, space my mental health. I already struggle on all fronts!

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    Default Unexpected pregnancies when family was already complete...

    Despite the fact I was undecided about a third, and even came off the pill to ttc, I fell before my period even returned. I had really mixed emotions about it. I am 35 weeks pregnant and terrified about how I will cope, how my 2 children will cope. I worry about financial factors, I worry about being tired, I worry about not bonding with this baby as much as my other two. I hope I don't treat this baby any differently! But I know this baby will be loved just as much, I was terrified when I had bloody discharge about 24 weeks.
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    Default Unexpected pregnancies when family was already complete...

    I'm 23wks with no2 - not planned at all, DS1 is only 14mths. I'm really struggling to bond with this poor innocent bubba and hope that changes soon because it makes me feel incredibly guilty

    Financially it's going to be very tough, and to top it off, my DH has left me, largely because he couldn't handle the thought of another baby so fast. So I feel your uncertainty and guilt.

    I'm actually now seeing a counsellor to help deal with my conflicting emotions. I know I will love this baby to death, but I'm also (irrationally) blaming him for my marriage breakdown too, not to mention the fear of coping as a single mum.

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    Default Unexpected pregnancies when family was already complete...

    I thought I was done after having 3 beautiful girls who are really close in age that also have a few medical issues between them that keep me on my toes. Then Just like you I fell pregnant from contraception failing to work. I didn't tell anyone I was pregnant and hid my belly for the first 16weeks. I think I was embarrassed and thinking holy cr4p how am I meant to wrangle four 5 and under and DD1 starting prep but towards the end I started buying heaps of girly things and decorated the nursery which got me excited. Once she arrived I couldn't imagine my life without her and would now love a 5th..


 

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