A friend of mine is going through a nasty separation/divorce. During the process her lawyer has suppoened DOCS reports about her exes new gf's children (make sense?). Anyway most of the DOCS reports are mandatory reports (teachers, school counsellor, police) and there are a few from neighbours and family friends. Most of the issues are about inappropriate sexual behaviours of one of the eldest children (to the gf's 1st husband. She has 2 ex husbands- no judgement just makes this story easier to understand). These reports have been accumulating since 2006 and have not been investigated ???). Anyway my mate has asked for my opinion about whether she should share this information with the first ex husband. The eldest child has gone to live with the dad as she has been self harming and does not feel comfortable living with her mother and her new boyfriend. (Still with me?). The 2nd eldest is still there and this is the child that there are the most concerns about.
I can not offer a non biased opinion and said I would post on here and see what most parents would say about her telling the father. She doesn't know him, knows nothing about him, feels scared to call him (she found the number) but thinks he should know. She also is worried about being perceived as a trouble maker.
What do you think?