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    I am re opening this thread, however it comes with a stern warning.

    The OP has ask for help in dealing with her ex husband, not opinions on her parenting, her relationship or whether or not her son should play Auskick.

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    OP I would just tell him you have other plans for extra curricular activities. My ex suggested soccer for DS, but I personally think swimming lessons are FAR more important at his age so I just said no. *shrug* I said if he wants him to play soccer he is more than welcome to on his time but I will take him swimming. He already does activities after school so I didn't see the need for soccer on weekends.

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    Quote Originally Posted by London View Post
    Just taking issue with this.
    I am repartnered but I still post in the single parent section because I believe that I have experience in dealing with a parent who is no longer my partner. So while I might not be currently 'single', I do have single parent knowledge.

    This thread has nothing to do with being repartnered or single....its about how to say something to the FOB who she is no longer with, therefor it is something single parents (or parents who are no longer with FOB/MOB) can help with. For people who are still with their childrens FOB/MOB to post is slightly off because they have no idea what it is like to have to handle the situation with a child that goes back and forth between parents. THATS the problem with them posting in a single parent section.
    Thats what I thought this board was for??? For people who are no longer with their childs other parent. Its not a blended family problem or a partnered one. I never said I was 'single'

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    Quote Originally Posted by Benji View Post
    OP I would just tell him you have other plans for extra curricular activities. My ex suggested soccer for DS, but I personally think swimming lessons are FAR more important at his age so I just said no. *shrug* I said if he wants him to play soccer he is more than welcome to on his time but I will take him swimming. He already does activities after school so I didn't see the need for soccer on weekends.
    I said this to my DP last night. I would rather *right now* he got into something that would save his life and more useful, like swimming. That way I can get both kids in on it as well. Two birds with one stone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cleigh View Post
    Thats what I thought this board was for??? For people who are no longer with their childs other parent. Its not a blended family problem or a partnered one. I never said I was 'single'
    I think she was agreeing with you, saying that those that are repartnered but still have to deal with the ex can still give and receive support in this section. It's people who are still with the other parent of the child (like me ) shouldn't be here.

    I do post in this section every now and then even though I've never been a single mum. But I always offer support to the single/repartnered OP as I was part of a blended family and know how hard it can be on everyone.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cleigh View Post
    I said this to my DP last night. I would rather *right now* he got into something that would save his life and more useful, like swimming. That way I can get both kids in on it as well. Two birds with one stone.
    That's what I'd tell the ex Auskick is fun and all but it's not really up to him to decide on his activities if he's not even around IMO. If he wants to play football with him on his days with him, he can go for his life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    I think she was agreeing with you, saying that those that are repartnered but still have to deal with the ex can still give and receive support in this section.
    Yes I know she was agreeing. I just didnt know why people were saying stuff like "your not even single".

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    I think maybe just wait a bit until your ds says he wants to do something particular himself. He's only 4, there is plenty of time for him to do lots of things. Maybe even when he starts school there will be plenty of extra curricular activities for him to be busy with as well. If ex is really insistent, then tell him he needs to take him to the games himself.

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    At the end of the day you do what you want OP. If you feel your son would be better in swimming or martial arts, then go for it. Personally and this is simply my opinion, I would pick either the swimming or martial arts over the AFL but that's just my personal preference. I love the discipline martial arts brings (I did it for 5 years) and swimming can save lives so yes, they beat AFL in my opinion any day. Just say no

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    Quote Originally Posted by Benji View Post
    That's what I'd tell the ex Auskick is fun and all but it's not really up to him to decide on his activities if he's not even around IMO. If he wants to play football with him on his days with him, he can go for his life.
    Yeah I told him no. He wasnt happy but like HE said, not much he can do about it.


 

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