It takes time and effort...but it can be done. I hated my ex for a while, but...8 years later...we mainly do OK. DS is totally unaware of any issues and is happy. Ex and I sometimes fall out, but we do that away from DS.
It takes time for the raw feelings from the relationship to go away and then the parenting as a team can start to work.
In this case...i feel Cleigh's ex is overstepping a boundary and she is right to defend it. In order for a good parenting relationship with an ex to happen...you need to maintain those boundaries and make sure the ex does not rule your life by dictating what the kids do.
hugs Pesca...it will be ok.
My ex and I get along much better now than we did for most of the time we were together. Once we got past the emotions and anger and blame, we became a really good parenting team, and good friends as well. There is no way he would ever tell me what to do with DD in my time with her, and vice versa.
Realistically I would consider telling him that it's something that you're going to struggle to get him too, so it would be in DS and your Ex's best interests to wait til he's a little older, or things settle for you.
Havent read the other replies as of yet but i wouldnt start any sport with a child in their first year at school due to it being absolutely exhausting as school is full on.
Can you ask him if he can wait another year?
I noticed with my DS this year starting school, if he were to do a sport, he would struggle throughout his days and would hate doing either the sport or going to school.
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It seems to me that people are making this whole thread about OP and her relationship with her ex, NOT the child, which is the very thing everyone is condemning her for?
I think it's ur choice, and I hope whatever ur decision, is made for the right reasons. Best of luck
Maybe try and put yourself in his position? Imagine that there was an activity that you really really wanted DS to participate in....but (for arguments sake let's say) it is only on Thursday afternoons, and you HAVE to work every Thursday afternoon. But exDH has every Thursday off.
Would you think it would be selfish of him to say no to taking him?
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