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    Seiously lol Do you know how ard it is taking two kid that cant swim to the beach alone!? You cant put floaties on them coz tey just drift out to sea

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    I hate to psychoanalyse lol but it sounds like this isn't really about austkick. This is about an underlying anger you have that your ex is uninvolved yet makes demands for his son that you have to carry out. I can understand that.

    My suggestion is to discuss this with your ex and explain how frustrated you are with the above. If he is an uninvolved dad then I believe he has *somewhat* vitoed his right to make demands.

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    lol Yeah well he is the type of guy when we were together had nothing to do with his kids but when we went to family gathering for eg. He would go on and on about all this stuff "we" did, where in truth he did sweet f all. I hate him I really do, but thats nothing to do with this. I hate AFL and that makes it worse, but the fact that he wants this from me when he will have to do nothing but pay for it.... I dont know if I want to do it. For a lot of reason.

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    Default What to do in this case???

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    lol Yeah well he is the type of guy when we were together had nothing to do with his kids but when we went to family gathering for eg. He would go on and on about all this stuff "we" did, where in truth he did sweet f all. I hate him I really do, but thats nothing to do with this. I hate AFL and that makes it worse, but the fact that he wants this from me when he will have to do nothing but pay for it.... I dont know if I want to do it. For a lot of reason.
    A few posts back you said you guys had a great relationship, made all decisions together regarding the kids, didn't speak negatively about each other and have left the past in the past etc etc The above certainly doesn't sound that way.

    I hope you are ok because your posts are now contradicting each other. Do what you think is right - if DS isn't asking to play and you feel this strongly about it, then don't take him.

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    Default What to do in this case???

    I'm with River Song, I don't think you're being selfish, sounds to me like you do most of the running around and organizing for your child, why should the father put more demands on your time for his own preferences.

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    Default Re: What to do in this case???

    This is all getting a little bit tit-for-tat but, yes, SPC, I am a parent.

    Parents have both rights and responsibilities; they have both the right and the responsibility to make sometimes difficult and complicated decisions for their own children. Being a parent often means making hard and unpopular decisions and this may be what is happening for OP.

    Yes, I understand what FIFO means and I understand what shared care means.

    Where is the shared-care in this situation, where Dad expects Mum to take DS to Auskick 100 %of the time...If DS was desperate to play.Auskick right now then perhaps the situation would be different but it seems like Dad is the one with the need for DS to play. Besides, DS is 4 years old!!! There is plenty of time to expose him to all of the heathy sports in the world when he us old enough top develop his own interest in them, he is not going to be deprived, I'm sure.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pesca77 View Post
    A few posts back you said you guys had a great relationship, made all decisions together regarding the kids, didn't speak negatively about each other and have left the past in the past etc etc The above certainly doesn't sound that way.

    I hope you are ok because your posts are now contradicting each other. Do what you think is right - if DS isn't asking to play and you feel this strongly about it, then don't take him.
    Sorry, worded it wrong lol Dont talk about about each other infront of the children. I know what its like growing up in a family where parents are nasty towards each other to their kids etc.

    We do though, have a decent relationship concidaring. But of course, we dont always agree lol

    No DS isnt asking. He doesnt even know. It was just a text from EXDP saying he wants it.

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    I have a good parenting relationship with my ex...never say a bad word in front of the kids etc....

    I think he is an idiot most of the time.

    It is very possible to have a good parenting relationship with someone you think is an ****, at least you are not still with them lol and it makes it bearable.

    Hang in there, i think saying no is fine and it is hard for others to understand if they are not in a single parent household with a ex who likes to call the shots and not do any of the legwork.

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    Default What to do in this case???

    Just read the first few post and woooow not sure why you are coping with so much flicking...

    I don't find you selfish at all. If the dad wants his kid to experience X, Y or Z he needs to organize it himself.

    Not sure what is the best way to bring it to him though?
    I cant believe the dad is even expecting you to do it...

    Anyway, just wanted to say I'm in your corner

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    Ok thank you for all the replies. After much thought, yes believe it or not from both sides. I think I will say no. I was just planning on putting it "I have thougt about it but I cant see anything benifial at this age for him. Maybe when he is older"

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