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    Default VENT. I can't take this for much longer.

    Check with centrelink about the chikdcare rebate and benefit ASAP!! Depending on income you may get a fairly large chunk back.

    Perhaps a clinic rather than a doctor will give you more practical advice? I'd specifically ask them to point you in the direction of a class working with toddlers. Don't give up push until you get what you need!

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    Default VENT. I can't take this for much longer.

    I have Supernanny's book if you wanted to borrow it? Lots of great things in there :-)

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    Already some fabulous advice here.

    Just wanted to say I feel your sleeping/non sleeping pain. I think the daycare option is great.

    Definitely check your rebate - for us after the rebate and everything our daily rate is around $36. Not sure if you have this is near you but near us is 'occasional care' which I think is $10 an hour, even 2 hours every couple of weeks would be beneficial.

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    Default Re: VENT. I can't take this for much longer.

    It can be so easy to begin to question yourself as a Mother, hey? It sounds like you are doing a great job of coping with some very challenging 2 year old behaviours. It seems like you do not have a lot of a support from friends or family so you don't get any time out either...and your partner works a lot by the sounds of it so you don't have Daddy around to back you up...how have you managed so damn well for two years!!!

    If there is any way that you and your partner could prioritise your wellbeing by paying for at least one day a week of childcare then this would be helpful for you but also for your DD...she would learn all about rules and consequences at Daycare and if she is able to stick with them at Daycare then this could help you to work out whether her be haviour is within 'normal' range or whether there might be something else affecting her.

    It is so hard to be consistent with kids...and when you are exhausted and feeling unsupported by others it is damn near impossible...kids pick up on these times and it sounds like your DD is testing herself, you and your relationship by seeing what she can and cannot get away with. As much as this SUCKS it also suggests to me that you are doing something right...she feels safe enough with you to test this out...who else in the world could she trust enough to do that with? You must be doing a better job than you think you are.

    While this sounds like a normal aspect of child development *to me* you are the person actually in three situation so you should trust your instincts...and just because something is normal does not mean that it is the only way to be or that you have to put up with it if it is not helpful.

    Where do you live? The psychology faculties at the Universities have great *cost effective*clinics for testing kids (and adults) with regard to any concerns that you might have. The allergy/intolerance theory is interesting too...if testing suggests that your DD's behaviour is outside the realm our normal defiance/testing behaviour.

    If it is the case that your DD just happens to be super smart and sensitive about emotions/people and is able to sometimes use this to her advantage then you could try calling the Parent Line in your State for support and referral to a Triple P course...just google Parent Line or Parentline.

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    Default Re: VENT. I can't take this for much longer.

    i wouldnt stress too much.. in my ds 3 years of life i have had these random weeks where all of a sudden he turns evil and i get so stressed im a bad mum then bam hes back to normal. i really hope thimgs get back to normal soon x

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    Default VENT. I can't take this for much longer.

    Looks like we will have the same problem tonight again
    Dh put her down for bed and its just a scream fest with her smashing her head on the wall

    Do I just get her out of bed?
    Sit in there??
    Leave her??
    Surely she can't do this for another 12 hours like last night.. Right?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rachell View Post
    Looks like we will have the same problem tonight again
    Dh put her down for bed and its just a scream fest with her smashing her head on the wall

    Do I just get her out of bed?
    Sit in there??
    Leave her??
    Surely she can't do this for another 12 hours like last night.. Right?
    Have you tried getting her up and again and just sitting quietly with you and DH in the lounge room. We have done this with DS when he is just not ready to go down. Try putting her down again in 15 minutes.

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    Default VENT. I can't take this for much longer.

    http://www.infasecure.com.au/product...ries/4/Securap

    I'd advise getting one of these for her car seat it goes over both straps so they can't get their arms out. Best $15 I've ever spent my DD now can't get her arms out anymore.

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    Default Re: VENT. I can't take this for much longer.

    What a terrible time you are having to deal with. Can you perhaps move her cot away from the wall then leave her for 15 minute intervals? Go in and say 'shh bed time' and walk out. I wouldn't get her out of the cot at all.

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    Default Re: VENT. I can't take this for much longer.

    I was just having this talk with DH about how ds used to do that.
    Head banging was the worst.
    I ended up sitting in his room every night for half an hour reading a book. Any book out mag well do.
    He could see me and I could see him but if I am reading he gets bored and falls asleep.
    I had to make sure not to look at him or talk to him or the half hour would start again.
    We also did this when he moved into a big boy bed. Kept him in bed.

    I hope you get a good night sleep soon.

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