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    Default Starting to struggle - advice please!

    DS is 10 months old. For the last 5 months, he has slept through twice.

    In that time he has had periods of waking twice a night and up to 5 times a night for weeks on end.

    For the past 2 weeks I have really felt that the sleep deprivation of basically just broken sleep for 5 months has started to wear me down. I have been sick for nearly 2 weeks and I just don't feel myself. I'm so worried that it will never end and it has started to consume me - as much as I have tried to 'roll with it'.

    I'm worried that it is starting to have an impact on our family and our life. I have already decided to stop working early this term, I can't handle spending the main part of the week, wondering if he will sleep the nights I need to go to work and then going in exhausted and coming home exhausted. As much as I love working, it's just not a good thing for us at the moment.

    I think he is still waking for a bottle and I have tried to swap to water - sometimes this works, sometimes not. He is not a baby that can be patted or shushed to sleep.

    I think I need to re-introduce a sleeping bag.

    I really need some advice about this please:

    - types of sleeping bags people use for 10 month old?
    - what people do when their baby wakes 2-5 times a night? and really only settles with a bottle?

    Last night he woke at 10.30 and he went to sleep again at 11.30. then he woke at 1.30 and we gave him a bottle and he slept until 9am.


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    I really wish i had a better answer to give you. My dd is 4 and ds is 2 and they wake 2-3 times a night each. They aren't the types to be patted/shusshed to sleep either. Some nights we are lucky to have 2-3 hours broken sleep. On a bad night, we get woken hourly. Some days i feel like the devil is inside me.

    I have heard (but it doesn't work for us) that maybe putting him to sleep with one of those light lullaby monitors helps.. a couple of friends found it helped them. The baby is supposed to concentrate on the lights and shapes with the music on the dark ceiling..

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    Default Starting to struggle - advice please!

    How much solid food is he eating through the day?

    The reason I ask is my DS did the exact same thing. He was breastfed.

    He has always loved his solids and not a fussy eater so far, so he was definitely getting enough solids through the day so I stopped his night feeds altogether.

    DS also sleeps with a dummy.

    So my CHN gave me great advice which worked for us. If he wakes, go in and settle him with some water. No bottle/breast at all. Once he settles, put him back into cot and walk out. When he cries, wait a little, then I in and resettle. Pick him up, have a cuddle, soft talking 'shhh its ok, mummy is here, it's bed time now' etc etc. once he's stopped crying, put him back in the cot and walk out again.

    It took my DS about a 4-7 days and then he got easier and easier to settle without a feed.

    He now sleeps through but he's 17 months. I did this at 10 months though as I was feeling like you.

    This worked for us. I hated my DS crying so I didn't wait too long outside his door without going in. But also didn't rush in. It built his trust in me that I would be there if he needed me but he didn't need a comfort feed

    Hope u can find something that works for you

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    Default Starting to struggle - advice please!

    P.s my DS also wouldn't be rocked to sleep at this age. I would put him in his cot awake. They get the idea eventually

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    Default Re: Starting to struggle - advice please!

    Going by what you say, he slept 1.30-9am, I would say he was genuinely hungry, could it be a growth spurt? My 9 month old has slept through once so I feel your pain, I still bf her up to 3 times a night as she can self settle so when she doesnt I know its hunger.

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    Default Starting to struggle - advice please!

    Hi my DS was breastfed but what worked for us was sending DH in if he woke before midnight to cuddle and rock him back to sleep. If he got hysterical or cried for more than half an hour I would go in and feed him, but because it wasn't instant gratification he soon decided it wasn't worth the hassle to wake up for a feed.

    Perhaps something similar might work for you.

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    Thanks everyone for you replies!

    I think I will get one of those light monitors - thanks Minchi!

    I do think he was genuinely hungry also - I just struggle to work out when he is but some great advice here about waiting to feed, not rushing in.

    I have upped his solids today to things a bit more substantial and I thought I;d try to give him a bigger bottle before bed.

    Normally I'm pretty good with just going with it but lately it has just worn me down. Thanks again everyone!

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    I just wanted to give an update on last night.

    I really upped his solids yesterday to more substantial meals like risotto, zucchini and carrot slice, banana and avo on toast and I also realised I hadn't upped the ml's of his bottles.

    He went to bed very soundly at 7.30pm and was in a sleeping bag with covers over firmly.

    He slept until 11pm and I gave him a big bottle and then he slept until 6.45am

    I never like to get too over excited because it never seems to be consistent but I'm definitely more hopeful!


 

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