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    Default Re: do you like having visitors at your house?

    I used to like it and do it all the time. I used to have huge meet ups at my house (around 8-10 adults and anywhere up to 20 kids at once) but I realised pretty quickly that people were taking advantage of me and my hospitality. No one ever cleaned up after their kids, they didnt respect my house rules, which aren't really extreme, things like no eating on the carpet or in bedrooms etc.

    So I stopped offering. It was so stressful and exhausting for me and none of them ever offered to host so I couldn't be bothered anymore.

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    My first response to this question was 'hate it'... But really it depends who it is.

    My biggest issue with having people over is when they come! They always seem to drop by at the worst time, late arvo. It drives me insane!! Our ideal visitor time is morning, but no-one ever comes in the morning. It's always 'hey are you guys home I/we might pop over' right at the time I'm wanting to get DS in the bath and get dinner sorted.

    But I do like occasionally having people over in the evening once DS is settled... I just don't organise visitors over hardly ever these days as I usually just want to relax alone these days.

    My answer to this question would have been vastly different back in my mid-20's!!

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    Default do you like having visitors at your house?

    I love having people over.
    If we go for 3 days with no one coming over I'm like what's going on where is everyone?

    I have only a few ppl who come unannounced, one is a good friend and if the house is a mess and DS is being awful she'll take him for a walk so I can vacuum/shower what ever, another is my niece and she'll help out to if I need anything. The IL's coming unannounced is a bit irritating because I have to wait on them, and it's always at an awkward time, like nap time or something.

    I like having couples over too, although some kids drive me nuts, but I don't have a problem with telling what the rules are in the playroom etc. but sure I've stopped having some ppl over who just let their kids run a muck.
    DD is 8 and she too has a group of friends who visit without parents, they're very well behaved and I encourage it, they have a ball.

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    Default do you like having visitors at your house?

    Hate it. But I'm a home body and a bit of a loner. I find socializing exhausting in general. We have recently moved interstate and I have been trying to meet people but I find establishing relationships and entertaining to be stressful and I never feel relaxed and like myself. I hate forced conversation too. I miss having the type of friends that come over when your watching a movie, grab themselves a drink and sit down to join you, just being there for company not having to force something to chat about etc.

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    Default Re: do you like having visitors at your house?

    I hate it!

    It's different with those family and friends who just pop in and look after themselves and don't expect me to stop what I'm doing, but I have to make small talk all day every day at work, so there's no way I want to do that when I'm at home having me time in my fortress of solitude!

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    I love it. I feel more comfortable in my own home I feel selfish that I invite others over but rarely go to other peoples houses (I also don't drive so there's that)

    I feel awkward going into someone else's house unless it's a big group thing. I get over feeling awkward but I do feel awkward.

    But I'd happily have people over every day.

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    I have anxiety disorders so I need a week to prepare! So when someone 'pops over' I make them feel so uncomfortable they don't care to do it again!!!
    I like inviting family over n entertaining but friends-I feel-are very different

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    Oh my gosh, hate it. I like having my family over (though Mum I know you are mentally scanning for dust/grime/general lack of spotlessness every second you are here as well as quietly hating my decor) because I don't have to make small talk, but I would much much rather go to other people's houses. I have been known to cook meals to take to other people's houses as a bribe to encourage them to be the venue hosts! I also like to be able to be the one to call time on the event too so I can go home and recharge.

    I too find some kids tough, I mean I know it must be hard amongst all the other things parents are trying to deal with and teach their kids but so many of my friends have great kids that behave well when out and about, so the few that are less well behaved really stick out! If so many can behave then I dont think my expectations are unrealistic?!

    I am a very socially introverted person. I find small talk exhausting and after 8hrs+ of having to do it at work, I just want my house to be my hermit shell where I can be hermitty and relax and recover. Only people in the inner circle are hubby, puppy and bun in the oven, I could spend all day every day with them and be fine. I am also totally fine being entirely on my own for days on end. My family are close to inner circle but I still need a little down time occasionally. It takes years to nudge on into that inner circle.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SassyMummy View Post
    I'd rather go to other people.

    I'm someone who likes to be alone a lot, and I can only take so much socialising before I need to get away and be on my own again.

    I don't like entertaining. I don't mind making food for people, but I'd actually rather go to their house and cook for them there. I just feel less anxious and uncomfortable when I'm visiting other people rather than having them visit me.

    Plus, I feel like I can leave when I've had enough, and am not trapped with them, wanting them to leave but them not getting the hint.

    I particularly dislike children in my home. I never realise how well behaved DD is until I've been exposed to other kids. lol.

    exactly this! sometimes i find other people's kids just plain annoying and i find some visitors just sit and sit and sit til the cows come home. in my head i think to myself ""oooh just LEAVE!!''.. I know it sounds awful to say, but I can only tolerate so much time with groups of people before i feel suffocated.

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    Default do you like having visitors at your house?

    Can't stand it except for my mum and DP's brother. I never remember to offer refreshments, I hate having to clean the house beforehand only to sit there paranoid that I've missed something and I'm being judged and quite frankly I really only like my children. Other children I find obnoxious, have little or no manners and poor behaviour with only a couple of exceptions. I am also not terribly good at small talk and I like to be able to leave when I start to feel uncomfortable which I can't do when people are here.


 

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