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    Default do you like having visitors at your house?

    Do you enjoy having friends/people over/playdates at your house?

    To be completey honest, ive come to the conclusion i hate having people over.
    Today i had a playdate at my house for dd, i dont see this friend often at all because she's waaaaay to busy and stuff. Anyways, she instisted she come over to my house for the morning. Needless to say, i freaked out and spent the entire 2 days beforehand cleaning this house from top to bottom. I dont even know why i do it!
    I dont enjoy having to remember to offer food, drinks.
    Im just not a natural entertainer. I always feel awkward when people come over to my house and i think they sense it. I cant relax.
    When people come over for dinner, it's a long night. When they eventually leave around 11pm dh and i are that buggered, we both say to eachother "i hate having people over!"
    I have a friend who will drop in un-announced occasionally, which is undesired but i dont really care. She will pop in, make herself and me a cuppa, get her kid a bikkie or whatever and sit on the couch and help me fold the nappies ect while we chat. It's only for about 20-30mins then she's gone lol. I enjoy these little visits so much better. No preparation. no planning. No forced conversation. Just simple yet enjoyable.
    Anyways, im rambling now.
    I hate cleaning up after people and getting my house back to how it was.
    Anyone else not enjoy having to be the entertainer and have people over at their house?

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    I have a love/hate relationship with it.

    A large group of people over, I really enjoy. I look forward to it, and like planning food, drinks etc.

    My family- I'm totally happy for that to happen all the time. I don't feel pressured around them, and I encourage them to come around a lot because I like my boys interacting with them. Same with DP's family.

    Anything smaller than 3 people coming round though and I feel awkward. Even if they're my besties. I can go to their houses without any trouble, and I make myself at home... and like you I just can't wait until they leave.

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    Default do you like having visitors at your house?

    Completely and utterly agree. I hate feeling nervous that the toilets not clean or I've left undies on the floor or the kitchens dirty. I prefer to have a heads up so I can do a manic clean beforehand, it stresses me out when people drop in unexpected. And besides the house being clean, I just generally don't like making forced conversation for hours on end, when I could be relaxing with my family (on weekends). It's not so bad with family and close friends, but even then I don't like it when they just stay for hours and hours just sitting there when I could be getting stuff done lol sounds bad when I say it out loud, I'm a bit of a loner (except for DH, I could bewith him 24/7 and have a great time, hence why we're together I spose)

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    Default do you like having visitors at your house?

    I want to like having people, but I really don't! I too forget to offer food and drinks, and when people drop in unexpected I never have anything to feed them! We don't keep snacky food in the house to feed guests.. Tbh if I were more organised id probably enjoy it more!

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    I love having people over/ entertaining.

    Whether it's a party, a dinner party, or a play date - I enjoy all of them. I actually feel MORE relaxed in my own home, as I can sit how I want on my sofas (feet up), I know where everywhere is, I can get a drink when I'm thirsty, etc.

    I always need notice though, and wouldn't be happy about people dropping in. Need a little time to clean up, and try to look presentable

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    I'd rather go to other people.

    I'm someone who likes to be alone a lot, and I can only take so much socialising before I need to get away and be on my own again.

    I don't like entertaining. I don't mind making food for people, but I'd actually rather go to their house and cook for them there. I just feel less anxious and uncomfortable when I'm visiting other people rather than having them visit me.

    Plus, I feel like I can leave when I've had enough, and am not trapped with them, wanting them to leave but them not getting the hint.

    I particularly dislike children in my home. I never realise how well behaved DD is until I've been exposed to other kids. lol.

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    Yep I'm with you OP! I'm not a natural entertainer. I struggle to even offer people a drink when they come over. I've come to the conclusion it's because I've never learnt how to have guests in my home; when I was growing up we were poor and lived in an old little cottage in 'original' condition, and my mum was so embarrassed by it that she never let anyone in the house. So I never learnt what to do with guests really.

    I love going to other people's houses though! I could do that all day long. Infact some days I do just that!

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    I hate it. I grew up in a really filthy house and would have huge panic attacks when people had to come over (which I rarely let happen!) as I was so embarrassed. Even though our house now is totally nice and clean, I still feel worried about what people will think and can't relax.

    Also everyone always leaves the lid on the toilet up and that drives me nuts.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SassyMummy View Post
    I'm someone who likes to be alone a lot, and I can only take so much socialising before I need to get away and be on my own again.

    Plus, I feel like I can leave when I've had enough, and am not trapped with them, wanting them to leave but them not getting the hint.
    Very much agree with this.

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    We have a rule no visitors unless they are family because our house is a construction zone and it is just dangerous.


 

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