Donna I could of written ur post myself. I too am struggling a lot, DS is 4 weeks old & I have no idea how I'm supposed to get him into a routine of any sort or even manage to leave the house. He is so unpredictable.
For my own sanity I have stopped reading all the books & just trying to go with what he wants. I also pat & rock him to sleep if he is really unsettled or cuddle him because it's the only thing that calms him down. A lot of mums & midwives etc have told me that up to about 3-4 months they don't have huge memories so bub won't be able to pick up bad habits of needing to be rocked to sleep etc.
It's all about getting thru these early weeks & it's unfortunately very hard work. I had no idea it was gonna be this difficult.
Great tips by the way from all the PP :-)