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    Default My 1 year old is scared of his big brother

    My baby boy is scared of his older brother.
    DS1 is nearly 3 and DS2 is 13 months old.

    DS1 is not a 'naughty' boy, but he is a boy never the less. So he can be cheeky just like all kids are. He isn't even rough with his brother, jsut at times, he ends up hurting him, for instance, he bumps into DS2 with his little tykes cozy coupe, or he bangs him on the head with a toy,which I dont like and I do 'discipline' him for.

    I've noticed that DS2 bursts into tears whenever DS1 has the cozy coupe, or when they're in the bath and DS1 has a cup in his hand, as he pours water over his little brothers head.

    There are another few things that I see DS2 get really upset over.

    I do stop DS1 when I notice him doing these things, but I can't be everywhere all the time so unfortunately some things still happen.

    So my question is not just how to stop DS1 from being a bit mean, but also whether DS2 will grow out of being scared, and will he toughen up a little bit as well.

    I dont want DS2 to get hurt, and im worried that when Im not looking, DS1 is hurting him. It makes me sad as they're both now at ages when they can start to play together a little.

    Did anyone else experience this sort of thing with their kids? Will it stop and will they grow out of it?

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    I get this all the time. dd is 4 and ds is 2. she's forever smacking him, running into him, taking his toys off him etc..I try and TRY to get her to see reasoning to share, be gentle etc... but noooooo, she then starts her tantrums and screams the house down.

    some days i feel like a lunatic by the time they have gone to bed and i get peace and quiet.

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    I have the opposite problem and I think it's personality based. My 13mo dd doesn't mind her brother pouring water on her hair in the bath, dragging her along the floor in her fold out foam couch, etc, etc. But my ds (who is nearly 6) was in tears tonight cause my dd stood on his hair when he was lying down ... the little cheeky rascal did it twice in a few minutes.

    Bottom line is that some children are more sensitive than others. It's hard to deal with, but I think a combination of cuddles and waiting to see what happens and letting him toughen up a bit with time.

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    Thanks thanks,

    I have no problem getting him to toughen up but I think in some instances he is actually getting hurt

    I hope they both grow out of it, it breaks my heart to watch sometimes


 

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