My DS came after DD1 who was a dream baby. Could put herself to sleep at 8 weeks, slept through for 12-13 hours a night from 4 months. Totally contended in her own sleeping space. Then DS came along DD2 was an even easier newborn than DD1. She slept for 7-9 hours at less than a week old.
Yes, I did this with my two eldest, I just had bub on one side of me, and toddler on the other side, it worked out beautifully. I even tandem night nursed for 18 months, until I night weaned my biggest boy at 3.5 yrs, that was a bit rough!!
With the crying baby thing, my second bub had bad colic, so screamed pretty much non-stop for 6 months, but my toddler just got used to the night-time noise quite quickly, and it really wasn't too much of an issue...
I was lucky our second didn't want a bar of co-sleeping so all was well! He didn't want to be rocked or wrapped or anything special. Just put me in the bassinet and leave me alone!!!! The eldest continued to not want to sleep alone, required so much attention to get him to sleep!!! Amazing how they can be so different!
My DD moved to her big girl bed at 18 months (3 months before DS arrived), after bedsharing/cosleeping/side car cot since birth. The move was heaps easier than i thought it would be. She had just started sleeping through the night, and i was also scared that this would be interrupted, but it wasn't too rough.
Our doors were always open, and so she could come to us if she wanted to. DH had begun to do more of the night settling, and so he would walk her back to bed and some nights lie down with her til she was asleep again.
Having wakeful babies, i was reluctant to cosleep with both of them, particularly in the early months. This worked for us and gave me a few months only (mainly) having to parent DS overnight.
When DS was around 4 - 6 months, DD started coming in to us more, but i was ok to cosleep with both kids at this age. Now, DD sleeps mainly in her bed, but will sometimes come in for morning cuddles. She still proudly says "I sleep in my bed all night!".
The decision doesn't have to be all or nothing, and it might change over time depending on where your kids are at emotionally and developmentally.
We have been extremely lucky with our baby and has never cried at night, unless he is sick. Which is the complete opposite to ds1 who screamed for the first few months for hours at night. So I think it will all depend on your bub. I am personally loving being able to cuddle both my boys at night they do wake each other up sometimes and that was a huge concern for me given how ds1 was as a newborn, but it hasn't been an issue for me yet. I definitely think we are all getting more sleep being in together. Good luck and I hope it all works out for you!
Electric Boogaloo (15-06-2013)
Glad to hear things have been going well.
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