Closed Thread
Page 1 of 4 123 ... LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 40
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Jan 2006
    Location
    Gold Coast
    Posts
    8,267
    Thanks
    309
    Thanked
    356
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts

    Default Am I being an unreasonable mole?

    ok I need outside opinions
    So a friend from nz invited me to her wedding,she came over here for mine.
    Everyone knew each other at my wedding,and we let everyone stay at our house,to save costs and hired the homestead at wedding venue and let everyone who wanted to stay there on our wedding night to save them getting home.
    So I booked flight coz they were cheap,wasnt going to go otherwise.
    Have paid $260 for them and $180 for passport,and will stay with fam in nz.
    I am also flying to another part of nz to see other fam,so will have to be at the airport 4 times in 6 days
    I have no transport while in nz,except relying on fam.The wedding is an hour from where I am staying.
    I dont know ANYONE going to wedding
    Bascially I have NO spare money.I have told the bride I dont think i will go to wedding as its stressing me out getting there and back and being at airport next morning for another flight.She has offered to borrow her car,but I have to go to her place to pick it up and drop it back,then get home and obviously cannot drink at all in a room for of strangers for 8 hours.Plus I cant even remember how to drive a manual.
    Am I horrible for not going to wedding when that was the reason I was going to nz in first place??

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Jul 2011
    Location
    Melbourne
    Posts
    5,005
    Thanks
    1,052
    Thanked
    3,524
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts

    Default Am I being an unreasonable mole?

    I would go. I don't really understand why you would consider not going when, as you say, that is the reason you are going to NZ in the first place.

  3. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to kw123 For This Useful Post:

    HugsBunny  (01-11-2012),Mum2EandR  (01-11-2012),~BEXTER~  (01-11-2012)

  4. #3
    HugsBunny's Avatar
    HugsBunny is offline Once upon a time there was a bunny.........
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Posts
    6,603
    Thanks
    4,531
    Thanked
    1,966
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts

    Default Am I being an unreasonable mole?

    I'd probably be miffed if I was the bride tbh. I don't get why you wouldn't go to the wedding seeing as that's why you booked the flight in the first place.

    If I didn't know anyone at the wedding then I'd look at it as an excuse to get to know people :-)
    Last edited by HugsBunny; 01-11-2012 at 19:04.

  5. The Following User Says Thank You to HugsBunny For This Useful Post:

    halloweendee  (01-11-2012)

  6. #4
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Location
    Sautéed with bacon
    Posts
    6,070
    Thanks
    271
    Thanked
    2,695
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts

    Default Am I being an unreasonable mole?

    Yes.... Sorry.... This is all things that you should have worked out/thought of beforehand.

  7. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to faroutbrusselsprout For This Useful Post:

    delirium  (01-11-2012),HugsBunny  (01-11-2012)

  8. #5
    Join Date
    Jan 2006
    Location
    Gold Coast
    Posts
    8,267
    Thanks
    309
    Thanked
    356
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    so you think its ok for someone to travel from overseas to go to your wedding,but not really help them get to your wedding???

  9. #6
    Join Date
    Mar 2009
    Posts
    1,694
    Thanks
    260
    Thanked
    220
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    I'd be upset if I was the bride, knowing you came all that way, but then couldn't manage a short leg?Eta: I don't think it's her responsibility to get you to and from the wedding, sure it would be nice of her, but she has offered you her car, if a friend did that for me id personally consider it more then enough.
    Last edited by F&A; 01-11-2012 at 19:07.

  10. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to F&A For This Useful Post:

    Ellymoe  (01-11-2012),HugsBunny  (01-11-2012)

  11. #7
    Join Date
    Apr 2011
    Posts
    1,005
    Thanks
    39
    Thanked
    591
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Can one of the family members that you're staying with help you out by driving the car, even if you ask the bride if she minds that you bring a guest as it will make it easier with transport?

  12. #8
    Join Date
    Jul 2011
    Location
    Melbourne
    Posts
    5,005
    Thanks
    1,052
    Thanked
    3,524
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts

    Default Am I being an unreasonable mole?

    Quote Originally Posted by *Chels* View Post
    so you think its ok for someone to travel from overseas to go to your wedding,but not really help them get to your wedding???
    Yes!! It's not her responsibility AND she has even offered to lend you her car.

    I'm not sure what you are thinking tbh.

  13. #9
    Join Date
    Jan 2006
    Location
    Gold Coast
    Posts
    8,267
    Thanks
    309
    Thanked
    356
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    I guess I think...I had 80% of my wedding from overseas and I picked up every single one from airport,let them stay at my place and made sure they all had a way to my wedding.No questions asked.So I feel a bit **** that the favour isnt returned to me

  14. #10
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    Posts
    3,376
    Thanks
    820
    Thanked
    1,102
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts

    Default Am I being an unreasonable mole?

    Quote Originally Posted by *Chels* View Post
    so you think its ok for someone to travel from overseas to go to your wedding,but not really help them get to your wedding???
    Yes!! It is your responsibility to get to the wedding.

  15. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to sajimum For This Useful Post:

    HugsBunny  (01-11-2012),Mum2EandR  (01-11-2012)


 
Closed Thread
Page 1 of 4 123 ... LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. Mole removal in Melbourne?
    By RubySunrise in forum General Health
    Replies: 0
    Last Post: 12-11-2012, 21:27
  2. Mole predictions app
    By Kazza78 in forum Games & fun stuff
    Replies: 0
    Last Post: 10-11-2012, 13:51
  3. am i being unreasonable?
    By Gemma121 in forum Pregnancy & Birth General Chat
    Replies: 21
    Last Post: 21-10-2012, 21:38

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Nice Pak Products
Australian Made and Owned. The Baby U Goat Milk Skincare range is enriched with soothing goats milk sourced from country, Victoria. Goat's milk has a pH level close to that of our own skin and contains natural sources of amino acids and vitamins.
sales & new stuffsee all
Pea Pods
Buy 2 Award Winning Pea Pods Reusable One Size Nappies for only $38 (in your choice of colours) and receive a FREE roll of Bamboo Liners. Don't miss out, we don't usually have discounts on the nappies, so grab this special offer!
Special Offer! Save $12
featured supporter
Baby Monitors
Looking to buy a baby monitor? :: Read viewer reviews of baby monitors BEFORE you buy :: Buy at a local or online Baby Nursery Shop
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!