As a mother, how often would you go out to social events or to dinner/movie ect with your partner WITHOUT your children ?
Personally, we dont have the luxury of having family live near us that we could depend on to be here for our children if we wanted a night out. I wont hire a babysitter and we dont have reliable friends. If a social event is on or something we really want to go to, it requires planning ahead - way ahead and sometimes i just cant be bothered with the organisation/travelling arrangements/who will sleep where blah blah... ect. Sometimes it's just easier to be a hermit! LoL.
Sometimes i get envious of couples i know who get to go on regular "kiddless dates". It's really annoying when i read it as a facebook status too..."out for dinner, WITHOUT the kiddlett!" .....out for dinner AGAIN?! awww i could only wish !
The thing is, they have IL's that live 15mins away and their DD sleeps over their house so actually, they get a full night and morning child free whenever they want it. The go out for every birthday, anniversayr..you name it lol. Good for them!
I guess if i did have my family (mum and dad or IL's) living near me i would take up the oportunity to get out more, just the two of us. But i dont think i could make a regular thing of it and i certainly dont think i could leave my kids overnight!! I'd miss them and it would just feel wrong. Lots change when you have kids and i think ive just become acustomed to "if they cant go, i dont go".