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    Default When life feels totally and utterly hopeless

    What are your techniques for getting past (or just improving) this feeling?

    Just can't stand it anymore

    I just feel like there is absolutely no hope that I am ever going to live a normal happy life.

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    If I feel like that for to long I see my GP and get antidepressants.

    If I don't want to start them again I just make myself get up, make myself go out, try to hand around upbeat people and just try. Its really hard though, huge hugs.

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    Thanks Bexter. I try to get out and at least have a good chat with people - but everyone is always so busy. Either that or completely satisfied with socialising only very occasionally.

    Even though I have been single for over 4 years now, I think I'm only just starting to feel lonely. Just have been realizing that people in my life mean so much more to me than I do to them. That's kinda a crap feeling. Argh.

    Doesn't help that I'm trying to lay off the chocolate lately too. Ha ha.

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    Default When life feels totally and utterly hopeless

    I feel the exact same these days and I am medicated, although 6 months later they are still under review.

    Personally I am finding going for a half hour walk by myself (DD is at school and I'm not working so able too) is working wonders, pushing myself outside the safety of my house, listening to upbeat music and thinking happy thoughts.

    I'm also starting to see a psych this week so hoping they can help me find direction again.

    I'd start by seeing the doctor and maybe see if you can get in to speak to someone.

    Here if you ever need a chat xx

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    Thanks singlemumma.

    I feel like all I do is whine to my GP - he's probably sick of the sight of me.

    Ditched the psych as they were useless.

    I think what's making it all worse is on top of it all I have a lot of anxiety, triggered I think by work stuff being so full-on, me feeling like it's all I have time to think about, and being so underpaid for the hours I put in - its a huge stress.

    I hope to try and get a bit more exercise. I used to love dog walking in the mornings but its too hard with three older kids and no one else at home to watch them in the mornings.

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    Where do you live?

    I just recently joined a single parents social group from the Internet. Just google meetup, there are tonnes of social groups you can join. Lots of people to meet. Seriously the best thing I ever did for myself....

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    Really? Hmmm. I have often thought I'd be happier if only I knew people who would like to go out and meet up more often.
    I think one of my problems is that most people have husbands at home so they aren't keen to get out often. Or their husbands aren't keen for them to get out often

    I would love to know more single people.
    One of my good 'going out' friends just got into a serious relationship. Bah!

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    I have suffered with depression ect for years and had the same attitude towards psycs, until the beginning of last year and I didn't have much choice (had a breakdown and it was either see someone or be admitted to hospital) she was the 12th psyc I had seen and the only one that seemed to get anywhere, unfortunately she transferred elsewhere .

    Otherwise I try to make myself go for walks (I have 2 dogs so they stop me making as many excuses on why not to bother) I also join social groups and make myself go to events. As much as I would like to pull the doona over my head on my days off and stay in bed I do tend to feel better afterwards.

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    Do it! You would be surprised just how many people single and partnered do want to socialize and the beauty of these groups is that all these people are all on there for the same purpose, to meet people and have fun. I have made more friends in two months than I have in the past ten years. So google meetup......you'll have a blast...

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    Default When life feels totally and utterly hopeless

    Sometimes, for me, just taking some vitamins gives me that little lift. A multivitamin, evening primrose oil or a Vitamin B.
    I've been on antidepressants and I've got them in the drawer, but I'd prefer not to take them if I don't really have to.
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