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    Default No heartbeat ..... 20 wks :( :( need adice

    I wish I could say something to make u feel better, stay strong we are all thinking of u. Yasminah's Gift of Hope is a great organization for dealing with premmie babies and loss, they are on FB and would be able to help u with your grieving process. I can get in touch with them on your behalf if u like? PM if u do xx

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    Hi hopeful3,
    I can't seem to work out how to pm you .. I don't get very good signal In hospital & it takes forever to down load threads etc..
    My email is gracec@iinetnet.au
    If that helps any ... Thanks for being supportive & also a BIG hugs to alllll you other ladies ... It's nice to just ramble what on the mind and not be judged ..

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    Default No heartbeat ..... 20 wks :( :( need adice

    You can not be judged for none of this is your choice.
    You are not greedy and this is not your fault.
    I hope today goes ok.
    Sending big virtual hugs!
    Xx

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    Just has my 1st dose of mifepristone .. Been waiting since 8am.. I asked for Valium to try n relax me but the said I can have perhadine to try n help me sleep tonight.. Justice waiting ... I want to start the recovery process .. Get rid of slllll bsby items ... Repaint the room then desperate the girls again .. I know things happen for a reason .. But why get this far into my pregnancy .. I could have dealt with all these emotional/anger issues 6 months ago.., I feel anxious too as to what people will say .. We won't be trying again ... This was out final attempt.. I want to cleanse my mind my clearing out allll the baby things wervwere holding into .. I look at my stomach and i just see it as fat now.. Not a bsby .. I don't need to worry about eating or bending the right way.. I think I'll be back at work on Monday .. I work for myself & so I kinda have to get straight back into things.. My heart is broken yet life goes on.. A funeral .. Buriel.. Having a priest come out.. All these things really didn't think I would have to think about .. On one hand I think ohhh next time ill be extra cautious .. Paranoid... But there will be NO next tine .. The train ends here @ I have to desk with that on top of everything else .. Sooooo much for in uneventful pregnancy !!!!!!!!!!

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    Hi ladies
    Just an update from hospital .. All is calm & somewhat well. I havnt had the drugs yet.. so just waiting patiently for it all to start.. They've offered counciling.. But I don't know what they can say that you ladies havnt already told me.. I checked out heartfelt but they don't do babies before 20wks and my baby died at 15 wks they preferred not to however the hospital will take photos and we can spend as long as we like with our baby, even have them spend the night with is I'm just sad as this is very surreal.. Our 6 yo dd has asked to see the baby. We'll see what the baby looks like before we make a decision ..
    I just feel soo sad that we are at the end of our family making road . I wish the last 6 moths had been completely different and I wld maybe at ease by now with not extending our family.. Our 6 yo is absoutly devastated.. She's very sensitive, I told her to just cry. & ask any questions she may have .. I told her we will stay a family of 4... Thanks again for alll your well wishes & kind thoughts

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    Hi ladies ...
    Again thank you all for ur well wishes & support as a total stranger to you all .. Well saw my obs this morning ... He cannot yet explain what happened .. My baby was alive & well at 13wks ... Then something happened at 15wks .. I will go into hosiptal tomorrow where they'll give me drugs to bring on labour then Friday morning some pessaries to bring on the contractions .. On a positive note this will be a birth not a miscarriage which I'm sooo thankful for.. I feel that having a birth there is some formal recognition of my past & present.. Obs said that metropolitan funerals will take care of pics, hand prints etc free if charge .. It all still seems sooo very surreal ... Our future had changed forever ... Sands seems to be a good website but I'm yet to read read read soo much info .. I'm just glad that I told obs that I wanted an extra day to process Everthing !!!!! There's just sooooo much to think about .. We didn't expect to have to make these decisions so early in our baby's short life .. I'm going through the cycle of emotions .. I know time heals wounds but its just so very raw & extremely surreal .. You read about these things happening but just not to me .....

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    Well it's all over, well the medical dude of things .. I have birth naturally which wasn't as bad as I thought. Delivering the placenta was a different story ... We tried many times to try & manipulate the placenta to come out manually .. We waited 1/2 hr then 1 hr then obs called and said we wld do a couretee to prevent infection.. I'm very glad I went under. I got to spend the night with John Robert born at 3:42 on 1st November.. We had a beautiful litle basket. & he spent most of the night in bed with me.. Saying good by was Extreamly hard on us all!!! My dd6yo still cries. & wants him back.. We do, I feel soo empty. & worthless.. I don't feel the need to eat or be happy .. I feel like part of me has tied. The councilor we saw today was useless but maybe we were all too raw to talk about anything ..one moment I just stare into space the next my eyes well up.. I'm supposed to go back to work on Monday .. I don't know how I'll manage .. With dd2 I was seeing a psychologist I might try n see her again .. I think this greveing process will take a loooooong time .. Anyways thanks for listening .. and I'm sorry if ive repeated myself !!!!

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    Default No heartbeat ..... 20 wks :( :( need adice

    I'm in tears for you. So very sorry for what your little family is going through. Take each day one at a time.

    Take care x

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    Default No heartbeat ..... 20 wks :( :( need adice

    The 1st will always be a special day. Your little boy was born to a special family. I admire your strength in telling your story amidst feeling all the emotions you are going through. Hugs to you and your family. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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    Default No heartbeat ..... 20 wks :( :( need adice

    I have no words, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.
    My thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time.
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