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    Default No heartbeat ..... 20 wks :( :( need adice

    Hi .. Need some advice .. Just a quick overview ... I went for a routine midwife appoint .. I'll be 20wks this week & had morph scan on Friday .. The midwife couldn't find the heart beat .. The stand in obs couldn't find heart beat on the scan ..sounds like the obvious .... Sitting waiting not so patiently for another scan this arvo to confirm again .. The midwife said they like you to deliver natural ... Amongst all my anger.. Shock .. Self hate !!!!! Disbelief .. Morning . And 109999 other things I'm freaking out about the whole birth process !!! I don't think I want to deliver natural .. I did deliver my 1dd naturally .. 2nd was emerg ceaser .. & this was to be a planned ceaser .. Please any advice or tips ???????

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    Default No heartbeat ..... 20 wks :( :( need adice

    OP, I am so sorry!! I have no advice but could not read n not reply to offer hugs xx

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    I'm so sorry. I can't help with advice or tips, but I couldn't read and run without offering some of these

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    Default No heartbeat ..... 20 wks :( :( need adice

    I'm so very sorry. I suggest getting in touch with a counsellor through the hospital who you can discuss your options with.

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    Default No heartbeat ..... 20 wks :( :( need adice

    Oh I don't have anything to add but huge huge hugs xxx

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    Default No heartbeat ..... 20 wks :( :( need adice

    I am so sorry this has happened to you. I would try speaking to one of the counsellors at the hospital to help you get through this and discuss your options.. Sending you big hugs xx

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    Default Re: No heartbeat ..... 20 wks :( :( need adice

    how heartbreaking for you. Im so sorry you have to go through this. Sending thoughts your way xx

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    Deepest condolences op

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    I am so sorry! We lost our little girl at 20 weeks too, same thing, I went for the scan and no heart beat. I wen back to my OB the same day and she confirmed.
    Personally I was induced 2 days later, thinking back I wish I had let it happen naturally.
    I wish this never happened to anyone...

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    Thanks ladies ... It's soo nice to be able to post real personals in cyber space & get kind words in return .. My head is just going around in circles 110 mile per hour... I think I'm hunger .. But I'm angry at myself .. Why do I need to eat now ????
    Ciaomamma
    We're u induced for natural birth or did u end up having ceaser ?? Allll my pregnancies I had with ivf so I think I'm more numb to the clinical process of having a ceaser to take out my baby .. Birth for what ??? Pain for what ?? To say good bye before I even said hello ???
    I've already had 2mc & 1 ectopic & had d&c for them all.. I just want this nightmare to be over.


 

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