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    Quote Originally Posted by Minchi View Post
    Of course I would end it. I would find it hard to believe a kiss is an innocent kiss without any emotions going on between them. I have been cheated on by my ex dh & my so called best friend.. who was also pregnant to her own husband. I always thought i was a forgiving type of person, generally I am with many things, but this did alot of damage to me in every way. Kids or no kids I would be gone out of the relationship before he could blink.
    Sorry to hear you know first hand what it's like, that sort of betrayel with a best friend involved would absolutely be horrendous

    Quote Originally Posted by Waggers70 View Post
    My DH has kissed another when our marriage was going thru a rocky patch. He confessed, was remorseful and we've worked our way thru it and come out with a more honest and loving marriage than before

    So for me a kiss would certainly not end my marriage, and since both DH and I tend be overly affectionate after a few drinks, we have "relaxed" our rules on quick drunken pashes. But we always kiss and tell and never deliberately try to make the other jealous. I think emotional infidelity is far worse than purely physical and would be much harder or impossible to forgive. Honest communication is the key to a great relationship, and lots of affection and appreciation of your partner
    It's great to hear stories where you worked through it all and came out stronger.

    Quote Originally Posted by Jakois View Post
    Everyone is different. I could forgive a kiss, others couldn't/wouldn't. It doesn't make any one crazy, or naive or anything else.

    I don't think there is a right or wrong answer to the question and its just one if those 'where is your line drawn' kind of scenarios.
    Yep that's true. To me, cheating was always a massive 'deal breaker' in any relationship, but in a marriage, having to divorce would be my last option, i'd work though it all as best as i can before walking away personally, but it would take a lot of work for both sides to make it happen i guess.

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    I would forgive, if he was remorseful and showed an effort to repair the marriage. I have forgiven much worse than a kiss.

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    Very hard situation! I have been cheated on before and it absolutely killed me but I forgave and but then just was never the same ever again and ended up ruining the whole relationship anyways :/ If he just kissed her it would make me feel unloved and it would just keep playing in the back of my mind so either way whether I ended it or not I would still be gutted and would never be able to trust him again....

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    No over stepped the line in my book ....
    I think that the problem we make too many excuses.
    " Oh it was only this it was only that "
    "What do you expect he is a man that's what men do" .....bull****....

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    No I couldn't. I'd want to, it would be so much easier to just forgive and forget and carry on as though nothing had changed, but I know myself and I could nor would ever trust him again and I can't live in a relationship without trust. I know I would just punish him forever and make the both of miserable.
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    Old thread.

    I'd kick him out. No second chances.

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    Nope, I don't think I could get past it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mathermy View Post
    No I couldn't. I'd want to, it would be so much easier to just forgive and forget and carry on as though nothing had changed, but I know myself and I could nor would ever trust him again and I can't live in a relationship without trust. I know I would just punish him forever and make the both of miserable.
    I know this is how it would end for us too if I tried to forgive so I would avoid the extra heartache and throw his $%*@ on the front lawn asap.

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    I used to say cheating of any kind was a deal breaker. That person would be out the door and never allowed back in my life! Then, it actually happened. He broke up with me on our 1st child's due date to be with the person... 6months later we were back together and now have 3 babies.
    But like the quote.
    Trust is like a mirror, you can fix it if broken but you will always see the cracks, it will never be what it was before.
    (I didn't quote that correctly but you get where I'm going, I hope!)


 

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