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    I guess for some it isn't just a kiss, it's a betrayal and given your scenario the only reason he admitted it was bc he was busted. So I would consider it that he was only remorseful he was caught not sorry he kissed her.

    Would I end the marriage? initially probably not. But I think all trust would be gone and it would eat at the relationship and it would probably inevitably end bc I would be checking up on him and second guessing his every move. So even if it was only a one time mistake, my lack of trust would drive the final nail in the coffin.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lili81 View Post
    I would forgive. What is there for me to win by not forgiving and ending a many long and happy years wedding?! I don't understand how ONE kiss can overrule all the other things my husband has done for many years to prove me his trusts, love and loyalty This seems rather crazy to me. If I was the one who kissed, I hope my husband would find the strength in his heart to forgive me and live by his vows. I know that wouldn't be easy but so much more worth than a messy and silly divorce...
    You do realise everyone is different? as I said, for some it's not just a kiss. You would forgive and move on, fair enough. But calling others that would end it crazy is a bit much. As to living by their vows, cheating is not living by them, no?
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    Default Househusbands and cheating, would you forgive?

    Not that I'm married anymore - but I don't think I'd end a marriage over a kiss. I would if that kiss led to extra contact such as texting, feelings and or further physical contact.

    If it was just a moment in time kiss and walk away and do the right thing from thereon ... I could handle that. I also understand his reasons for not telling her as to me if there was nothing else in it really telling only eases his feeling of guilt and hurts her.

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    Default Househusbands and cheating, would you forgive?

    Delirium, take a deep breath, I'm not calling you crazy nor anyone else in this thread

    Just saying how I would like to react in this situation that's all. Everyone handles their own life the best they can.
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    Of course I would end it. I would find it hard to believe a kiss is an innocent kiss without any emotions going on between them. I have been cheated on by my ex dh & my so called best friend.. who was also pregnant to her own husband. I always thought i was a forgiving type of person, generally I am with many things, but this did alot of damage to me in every way. Kids or no kids I would be gone out of the relationship before he could blink.

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    lol I'm calm I'm just pointing out that everyone's bottom line for what they consider a deal breaker is different. For you it isn't, for others it is.

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    I could perhaps forgive him if he'd told me himself but if the person he kissed was the one who told me... then I' afraid it would be over

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    Default Househusbands and cheating, would you forgive?

    DH and I watched this episode and discussed this exact thing at the time!! My thought is that I would not want my marriage to end over "just" a kiss, but I am not sure that I would be able to move forward/forgive/trust again. I think if he had come clean and told her about it himself then it would have made the situation marginally better than hearing it from the other woman though!

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    Default Househusbands and cheating, would you forgive?

    I'm another that watched with my DH and we had an honest discussion about this.
    We decided that if it was just one pash in a drunken/frustrated/angry moment such as that one, we wouldn't be happy about it, but we certainly wouldn't end the marriage over it and we would forgive and forget.
    But we also discussed about even telling the partner in the first place. Who would it help? The guilt may be hard to deal with, but telling your partner about a kiss that meant nothing would only hurt not help.

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    I've been re-watching mad men lately and I was going to start a similar thread...
    I have total confidence and trust in my husband and he on me so maybe I'm being naive or overly confident but I feel I would forgive. I suppose it depends on the cheating, sex yes another relationship might be more difficult to look past but I do believe that we could work on things. A kiss wouldn't even faze me. I don't know maybe I'm old school, that said he told me in no uncertain ways that if I was to cheat it would be over... man ego... Oh well let's hope everyone can keep it in their pants!


 

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