has anyone ever had to make a choice between marrying and having children with either or 2 different partners and having to weight up the pros and cons of each, or being in limbo as the dillemma is too great.
did you live to regret?
what sort of things made it clear for you?
someone close to me has this dillema
and i've suggested some things to consider eg
joyful to be around
interesting wise fun practical
easiest to live with
best around kids
common goals eg how many kids will they work and have kids can they save for a house with you or will they have different financial goals
can cope with working and raising kids and being a loving wife
is more supportive nurturing understanding accepting
easiest to share a life with financially, emotionally practically
has a supportive family
loves them appreciates them most
is fun, practical nurturing, capable, supporitive
flexible, tolerant, patient, easy to resolve things easilly with,
not difficult not temperamental
that will give most support encouragement love and freedom re all areas
hobbies, free time, career,
and which will be more stressful in more areas.
that one enjoys with or with out kids and can see living with for a lifetime hopefully.
trustworthy emotionally, financially, and in relationships,
suggestions pls to help him solve his dillemma. he has known both for many years