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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Grown adults playing computer games for hours on end need to grow up. Sorry your birthday was ruined.
    I agree - plus he is setting a very bad example for your son

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    Default Partner stayed on computer all day?

    I know it's hard to leave, but I am just shocked every time I read your posts about him and wonder why you stay. Sorry he wasn't paying attention on your birthday. To me, it would be a deal breaker, that he can't even spend one day away from games for you! I would've packed up my stuff and left yesterday, he probably wouldn't notice because he's so transfixed on the screen. You deserve better.

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    Naw. That's so sad and disappointing... I would totally pick your moment, sit him down and explain to him how you felt. He may or may not take it on board but you have to live with yourself and the way I see it you have three choices: 1. Tell him how you feel and ask him if he would consider how he would feel and can he think of a way to make it up to you? 2. Let is slide, live with it and accept this is who he is. 3. Ask him to move out. He chose computer games over you for the last time....

    None of these choices are easy but you just have to ask yourself what you're willing to accept... You can't expect him to know how you feel if you don't blatantly tell him (some men/people are just that clueless!)...

    Perhaps you could negotiate a compromise in future? Another tactic I have found works for us in a similar situation is to pre-empt situations where he might be inclined to "go underground" and discuss the, with him prior... Like "don't forget tomorrow is my birthday and it would mean a lot to me if we could do something together. What were your plans in terms of gaming?" This tells him how you feel, what you expect and that you don't expect he'll have no time to himself but that you'd like to plan around it.

    Best of luck and I hope you can speak to him soon... Take care of you.

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    Can I ask - why do you stay in the relationship? What is keeping you there?

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    It sounds like he barely sees him anyway among his cartoons and games. Children can be underfathered even if they live with dad - he's clocked off a long time ago despite the fact he's still living with you both.

    At least if you left, your son has a chance at having a happy mum

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    It sounds like he barely sees him anyway among his cartoons and games. Children can be underfathered even if they live with dad - he's clocked off a long time ago despite the fact he's still living with you both.

    At least if you left, your son has a chance at having a happy mum
    Couldn't have said it better.

    I'm sorry you have to go through this. I can't help but think you knew how we'd all feel when you posted your OP. you have so much support on this forum if you need the strength to leave you'll find it here and I'm sure in real life.

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